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to be miffed by DH's big gob.....

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IFancyKevinELevin · 22/07/2010 19:24

We are having a huge clearout, and yesterday I sorted out my DD's clothes, all too small for her, Ralph Lauren, Gap, Petit Bateau etc etc.

There were about £500 of clothes. I reckon I'd have got about £150 on ebay for 3 bundles.

I put an email around to some people to ask if they wanted to have a look at the clothes as I don't have time to ebay them.

One friend came round today and wanted the lot. I was in the kitchen making tea when she said: "gosh they're going to save me a fortune, my DD has grown out of everything, how much do you want for them?"

My DH replied : "nothing just take them!!"

I felt too embarassed to say, "eh? I do want money".

Needless to say she didn't offer again.

I'm bloody furious with the gobby pillock, we could really do with the money too.

What do I do? Would it be too late to ask for something? I feel like getting my husband to apologise to her for HIS misunderstanding and ask for £50?

aaaarrrggghhhhhhhhhhhh!

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compo · 22/07/2010 19:28

Just tell her you want them back when she's finished and then eBay them
you wouldn't have been able to ask for as much as you'll make

Kathyjelly · 22/07/2010 19:28

Too late I think unless you want to risk losing a friend. I think you need to explain the economic facts of life to your DH.

gerontius · 22/07/2010 19:29

Did you tell him beforehand that you were planning on selling them rather than giving them away? Because tbh, I don't think I'd assume we were selling old clothes to friends....

GeekOfTheWeek · 22/07/2010 19:30

I wouldnt ask for cash now.

However i would be very pissed off with your dh.

scurryfunge · 22/07/2010 19:30

I would not have charged a friend anyway. If you wanted the money, you should have sold them on ebay.

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IFancyKevinELevin · 22/07/2010 19:31

Good idea Compo but we are leaving the country next week!

I was going to ask her to make me a fair offer, £20-50?

...before big gob stepped in. Am not annoyed with her, it's him! Just wondered where he got the idea of wading in and saying they were free, when I had told him I wanted to sell them and after I had sorted, washed, ironed and packed the bloody lot! And bought the majority of them!

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traceybath · 22/07/2010 19:33

Could you phone friend and say your DH has given her the wrong pile as those were for ebay.

I do think your friend should have given you something.

I'm always giving people stuff that my dc's have grown out of and to be honest I don't want cash but just once it would be nice to get given a bunch of daffs or something.

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IFancyKevinELevin · 22/07/2010 19:37

if it was a close friend of course I would have given them away, but she was only an aquaintance from work.

I'm not going to ask her for money now it's happened, just wondered if I was justified to feel totally peed off at DH for charging in with his motor mouth.....

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Numberfour · 22/07/2010 19:39

YADNBU

thisisyesterday · 22/07/2010 19:42

oh nooooo!

i am going to go against the grain and say that you can call your friend and say you're really sorry but there was a misunderstanding and you really wanted to sell them

if she is a good friend she'll understand surely???

Sanesometimes1 · 22/07/2010 19:48

It's just too late now - will be very embarassing for your friend as well as yourself if you bring up money for the clothes - put it down to experience and next time save old socks for DH gob !! lolx

upahill · 22/07/2010 19:49

I'd leave it now. What's done is done.

bytheMoonlight · 22/07/2010 19:50

Its too late

BeenBeta · 22/07/2010 19:53

Whoa! Hang on a minute there!

There was £500 worth of clothes including some Ralph Lauren and she grew out of them?

Ebay is not your solution. I suggest Primark until she stops growing.

upahill · 22/07/2010 19:56

BeenBeta, That's why I shopped at Ethel Austin when they were little and went more up market to George for a 'posh' do!!

poppymouse · 22/07/2010 20:34

Oh no this happened to me. CM's Mum brought him some dungarees from the charity shop where she works. After I was asked "Do you like them? Do you think they'll fit?" I was asked for £2. I'm quite happy to give £2 (or more) to the charity shop but I was that what I ought I was a nice wee present was actually a request for money.

Lovesdogsandcats · 22/07/2010 21:02

poppymouse

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IFancyKevinELevin · 22/07/2010 21:33

He's apologised profusely and admits he has a big gob - he has even produced some Reeces' peanut butter cups by way of apology yum.

Ex-colleague has posted a lovely message on FB this evening about how happy she is with clothes so that's given me a fuzzy glow.

Yes there was some stuff from Ralph Lauren, Gap etc, but that was because I worked there for years, and for most of the other stuff I worked in those companies too, I know the factories they were made in and the quality they are and got a little discount to buy them. I get George stuff too but just tend to charity shop it all as it just doesn't last. The stuff I had lasted my DD from 2 to nearly 5, I've never had George/Primark stuff that long!

I think I'll just take the feelgood of recycling/making someone happy. She is struggling for money since her divorce so it's perhaps saved a bit of financial pain. I could've used the money of course, but I think sometimes it easy to get into that "ebay everything" mindset.

Now the hard part is admitting to my husband that I may have been a tiny bit wrong.

But I may keep the balled up socks handy in my pocket for any upcoming social faux pas!

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