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Original poster

to use my health in pregnancy grant on health in pregnancy

46 replies

TheFruitWhisperer · 22/07/2010 15:52

Im feeling terribly guilty. I was planning to spend mine on a trip to a spa or salon, where I could have a Baby Bump massage and mani/pedi and just relax for a bit. Ive found these things quite cheaply, £60 up to about £90, so Id have cash left over for a few baby clothes and such.

Talking with my friends, it seems that nearly all of them saved the money for baby. I had considered it, but the big purchases are already sorted.

Am I being incredibly selfish? I suddenly feel like I am?!

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DetectivePotato · 22/07/2010 15:54

No you are not. I am pregnant with DC2. We have nearly everything still and we need to get a slightly bigger car as a rear facing seat won't even go behind my seat as I am tall and have to have my seat quite far back. My money is going towards that.

Having a good rest, relaxation sounds like a great idea to me!

HecateQueenOfWitches · 22/07/2010 15:56

ok. You loaned yourself the money to buy the big items and are paying yourself back out of the grant.

Sorted.

Spend it how you choose. Don't ask anyone or run it by anyone or seek anyone's approval (am talking rl!). Do what you want to do.

NarkyPuffin · 22/07/2010 15:57

You are spending it on the baby. Stress in pregnancy is bad for the foetus. Having a relaxing day being pampered is good for both of you.

domesticdiva · 22/07/2010 15:57

YADNBU!!!!

Spa + relaxation = good blood pressure + healthy mum in pregnancy!

See it all works out, so no YANBU go and chill out woman! I've had two spa days so far in this pregnancy and felt wonderful. Enjoy

domesticdiva · 22/07/2010 15:58

p.s you could always stop off at Tescos on your way home and buy some broccoli if that makes you feel better

slouchingtowardswaitrose · 22/07/2010 16:03

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RooBear · 22/07/2010 16:03

mine went on a dishwasher

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TheFruitWhisperer · 22/07/2010 16:03

Its the 'Oh? A spa? I spent mine on the baby' reactions that suddenly made me think, hang on, is this an example of where I need to start changing my priorities now Im a mama!

Im pleased to see I can still have a facial and not be deemed a terrible mother! On MN anyway! Thanks guys

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BusyMissIzzy · 22/07/2010 16:04

I hope this isn't an inflammatory comment, but it always seemed to me that the HiP grant was probably of more use to people who wouldn't normally/couldn't afford to eat plenty of fresh fruit and veg. For the rest of us, it's moe or less 'extra' money, and thus can be spent on whatever. Whether that's baby- or pregnancy-related is up to you. Massage and mani/pedi sounds fab to me though We bought a flat when I was 3 months pg, so mine just got sucked into the decorating/furniture (incl. nursery)/general spending void.

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TheFruitWhisperer · 22/07/2010 16:05

Sloughingtowardswaitrose, Ive paid taxes for 14 years. Therefore I probably paid for your pregnancy grant.

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SloanyPony · 22/07/2010 16:05

I bought shoes. I'm not talking booties.

Slouching: Think of it as the OP spending the tax she paid, not the tax you paid. HTH x

sapphireblue · 22/07/2010 16:29

spend it however the hell you like IMO. 25 weeks is far too late on to start worrying about eating healthily! I can't actually remember what I spent mine on, but can guarantee it probably wasn't baby related as we still had everything from DD1!

runnybottom · 22/07/2010 18:03

Aren't there better ways to be spending everyones taxes though? A grant for a massage and mani-pedi does seem a little de trop when the entire country is in the red?

Don't personally give a shite, I don't pay UK taxes, and I wouldn't have turned it down if offered, but.....

thatbuzzingnoise · 22/07/2010 18:13

this thing will kick off.

TheFallenMadonna · 22/07/2010 18:16

What is a health in pregnancy grant? Is it universal? How much is it?

belly36 · 22/07/2010 18:20

YABU you are meant to spent it on carrots and grapes

goodmorning · 22/07/2010 18:37

We bought a tumbledryer, and yes, as Sloanypony said i absolutely thought of it as the tax i have contributed into the system.We had twins so had to fork out extra anyway for stuff i.e. 2 cots, 2 carseats etc so it was very helpful for us.
You spend it on what you like, i cant see it being around for long!

AxisofEvil · 22/07/2010 18:42

lets not forget cash is fungible

porcamiseria · 22/07/2010 18:44

chill! mine was eaten by my overdraft

monkeyfacegrace · 22/07/2010 18:45

quietly agrees with STW but is feeling ill and no mood to argue so slopes off....

MrsC2010 · 22/07/2010 18:46

I suspect we all pay/have paid taxes.

OnlyWantsOne · 22/07/2010 18:46

slouchingtowardswaitrose have a

IPredictADiet · 22/07/2010 18:47

in principle I agree wholeheartedly with slouching....
but in RL I get my grant next week and will mostly be spending it in Thorntons.

zapostrophe · 22/07/2010 18:52

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SloanyPony · 22/07/2010 19:01

To be honest I agree with STW too in that the damn thing should be scrapped.

But like you say, we all pay tax.