I just realised this morning that it was my MIL's birthday on Sunday. I'm absolutely mortified, we totally forgot, she got no card, no phonecall, nothing.
Part of the reason this happened is because DH is just shit at this kind of thing. He's also shit at ringing his mother. But, you know, she's his mother, and really they are quite close (despite lack of contact) so it's his business right?
I married a man who is just not good with phones, or remembering dates, and I'm OK with that, but it has meant that I am now the point of contact for some of his friends - as in they now contact me if they want to see him. I'm fine with this, his friends are great, they are my friends too etc. Although it does mean that he is gradually losing contact with the friends I don't know that well, or don't have a particular connection with.
I've always told him that I will NOT do this with his family, because I know how lazy he is about this kind of stuff and I don't want him to not ever phone his mother because he just expects me to do it.
BUT, they're my family too now and they're my DDs' relatives and I don't think he makes enough effort to keep the contact up, particularly since we live so far away.
So AIBU to be cross with him about this now? If this were you would you continue to butt out? Or would you just start getting your MIL a birthday card each year and getting your DDs to phone her on her every few weeks?
That's what I should do, isn't? There's no point in expecting him to change and there's no sense in MIL being hurt and DDs having distant relationship with their Grandma.