To feel so jealous of other people's kids getting awards?

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Just done leaver's assembly for my Y6. I am part a group of mums who are quite close. All their children received awards for good behaviour / citizenship / maths / etc and out of the whole group, mine 'only' got the standard 'everyone gets one of these so they don't feel left out' award.

Just reminds me that all their children are so well behaved / study hard / co-operate and are thoroughly likeable. They constantly praise each other's children and talk about how H really likes J and how well M plays when she's at M's, etc etc. They have never once said how lovely it is to have my children round. Indeed after every school holiday I get the impression they've all been doing things together and I never seem to get asked to join them. Despite my having everyone else's kids around, they don't all reciprocate.

It is harder than usual this year as all my children are going to different schools next term than theirs so our relationship may become more distant as we won't see each other every day in the playground.

Am I just being paranoid? I am proud of my children and I'm also proud of theirs and cheer their awards. It'd be nice if they'd be proud of mine too for a change.

They sound like a bunch of bitches to be honest. Revel in the fact you won't see them every day, and don't let it put your nose out of joint.

As long as you are proud of your dc , then to be honest stuff the others, don,t let it get you down,it is not worth it

Don't get caught up in this. It will eat you up, I'm telling you. Rise above it NOW and you will feel so much better.

If it makes you feel any better, I have been working/studying full-time since DS started school, so rarely do drop-offs/pick-ups and am definitely not part of the inner sanctum.

My DS, although working at a level about 5 years beyond his peers, has Asperger's and is 'challenging'. We do not get asked on playdates and he has never won an award. It can be hard sometimes, but I refuse to get drawn into some sort of competition.

Thanks guys! A bit calmer today and feeling a bit more rational! I AM PROUD of my sons and what they've achieved. My ES has some Aspergers traits which have made it hard for him and it's reflected on me once or twice when he gets himself misunderstood!!