to think boys can be just as bad bullies as girls

[carriedababi]

personally i think boys can be just as bad for bully as girls

hearing someone talking today about someone they know who is being bullied and she must have said you know what girls are like three times.

i did say well i think biys can be just as bad.

but wondered what you think?

i don't know only ever having had experience of girls mild bullying at school. But I'm sure you're right. Fingers crossed my DC haven't been the bullied or the bullies.

I've got two boys, in my opinion (and recalling my own childhood experiences through the mists of time), boys are more physical, and girls are more psychological. Not that either is in any way acceptable.

I think girls can be more spiteful than boys. Boy bullying is different. neither is better than the other though.

Ooh, quickly adding - as far as I know , mine have neither been the bully, or the victim.

I was bullied at several stages of my school career and almost invariably by boys. And often with hurtful remarks and psychological bullying, rather than the jolly boisterous behaviour that is supposed to be typical of the male sex. What's so surprising about that- Professor Snape is a man. Sarcasm and psychological sadism is perfectly within the scope of some boys.

Boys are DEFINITELY the worst by far. I was really badly bullied at school and 90% of it was by boys.

It still affects me now, I feel panic if I'm left alone in a room full of males and I can't walk past groups of teenage boys. I hide it well though, no one knows this even my husband as it's really embarrassing especially at my age now!

One of the funny things is one of the most "popular" boys who bullied me is now in prison for murdering....his own DAD!

I don't think either sex is exempt from being vicious and nasty.

I always think of boys as being worse, although this is probably far from rational.

I went to an all girls' school and didn't experience or witness any bullying. But I do know it was rife at various boys' only schools - some of it really quite bad, too...

Plus, it isn't just physical with boys - they can be vicious in other ways too - mocking, accusations of being 'weird' or God forbid, 'gay'. They can be just as cruel.

No YANBU as chickens says also it doesn't stop at school IMO and on here!!

Boys physically bully in my experience not neccesarily punches but pushing and moving stuff etc girls are more vocal in their bullying.

YANBU. I was horribly bullied by boys at primary school - not physically but they were vile to me. I went to a girls' school at 12 and didn't have any problems with bullying at all.

DH went to a boys school and there was some horrible bullying there too.

YANBU, they are pretty much even in this.

I think girls tend to use words more than boys and boys are more likely to go for the physical intimidation.

But these are tendencies rather than a rule.

I don't believe in this boys are only physical. Some of the most verbal sadists I have come across have been male.

Agree with Cory totally. I did A levels at an all boys private school that had girls in the 6th form. The bullying I got there was never physical - it was verbal abuse about my looks,my over religious family, my clothes, the fact I wasn't rich like they were. I ended up just hiding in the girls changing room at every break. This verbal abuse was ALL from boys

It's even in my experience, although MIL disagrees, she told me yesterday that 'boys are ok, but all girls are born bitchy'

Boys are more physical I think but equally relentless. I have never agreed with this boys have a fight and its all over idea. Certainly not in my experience.

Boys are unstoppable, girls can be appealed to sometimes and will feel bad, boys egg each other on and on and don't want to be seen to lose face.

it can carry on a bit from boys to men too.

for example when you get a group of male friends together, there often tends to be one thats kind of the butt of the jokes that everyone takes the mick out of. with men it's done just as a laugh/micking taking, for the person thats usually the butt of the jokes it must hurt sometimes.

I don't agree that boys are always more physical - they are "good" at the psychological stuff too unfortunately and that is sometimes more difficult for boys to deal with as "big boys don't cry" and they don't always talk to their mates about feelings!

yanbu
ds was bullied by a couple of boys it was nasty and mainly verbal

I was bullied by boys as well as girls at school. The type of bullying was verbal with both except the boys threw in a good dose of sexual harrasment to boot. Comments about tits, sex etc were common. They did it to lots of us and they used to rate us girls out of 10 for attractiveness. NICE. Hence my lifelong suspicion of public school boys!

I'm afraid to say that I have concluded that most humans aren't evry nice and will bully each other. I am therefore a misnthrope. (I at last found a word for it!)

very

misanthrope even!