to be slightly narked off.....

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Ok so nothing via stealth but wanted to know so am prepared for flamage!

A while back my half sis was clearing out her house and offered my dh and I an old blanket box to store toys in. She very much gave us the impression that we were doing her a favour by taking it off her hands and we offered to give her some money. The impression given that it would be around £100 for second hand and scribbled on etc or less.

Fast forward, not forthcoming with how much she wanted, my dh and I recieved a small inheritance from a relative in trust (relative died some time back but not her relative iyswim!). Not a huge amount but enough for us to do some much needed work on our home (new bits and pieces/essentials - maintenance etc like boiler). This inheritance caused a massive family dispute as half sis expressed entitlement to some of the money (from one of my relatives not one of hers, bearing in mind that when one of hers left an inheritance I was not given any part of it - and would like to add didn't think I should have either).

Anyway, nearly a year later from pushing it on us she has asked for the money for it a sum of £200. It is still available in the original shop for £300 we saw it this weekend, and I think she is taking the piss to ask for 2/3rds of the money as does my dh who again was under the impression that it was going to be far far less. Not only that but she hasn't called me about it but just texted me and wants the money today as she is off on holiday for a month on saturday (incidentally she has the family moses basket which she hasn't given back to me after demanding it back post birth of 1st dc and I am due in 2 weeks - keeps promising but is now expecting me to drive 150 miles to pick it up if I want to use it! Which is kind.)

Am not prepared to get myself really wound up about it but I am feeling that as far as the money goes she is trying to get as much out of me because of this inheritance. (Which hasn't gone far would like to add!!!!!) So effectively replacing a screwed up boiler has taken most of it and the rest we put into a savings account for the dc/expected dc. My dh feels we should just send it back, but there has been so much friction I am not sure I want to cause more, equally though I don't see why I should be a muppet when I could spend an extra 3rd and get the same thing brand new.

Sorry for long post but would like some typical AIBU advice.
Thanks

I'd text back that I can't afford to spend £200 on something to keep toys in and had only budgeted £100 if that's no good she can have it back and you will buy something with the money you have set aside.

Just give her what you think it is worth. If she is unhappy she can collect it.

I'd return the box back when I went to collect the moes basket tbh.

I'd just give it back to her. And pick up the Moses basket at the same time.

And then I'd personally leave her to stew lol.

YANBU have you said that you are surprised by the cost of the box?

I think you should act as if there is no issue around money/inheritance etc and just say that you thought she wanted around £100 and if you'd known it was more then you wouldn't have taken it off her hands. So, if she wants £200 for it you'll have to give it back.

If she makes a dig about you having money because of the inheritance you simply say that it all got spent on essential repairs - you don't have to explain about saving any it's none of her business. If she's in a huff about it then don't react and just ask her to tell you which option she'd prefer £100 or have it back.

I think I would tell her that you haven't found the box particularly useful and took it on as a favour to her so perhaps it's best if she comes and collects it and drops off the moses basket at the same time!

I'd ask on freecyle for a moses basket btw - don't bother buying a new one.

You could also offer to ebay the box for her (in the knowledge it's not likely to fetch £200).

Of course she shouldn't have any of the inheritance. Not left to her nor a relative so no issue there.

I would return/not buy the box off her and use the money to buy a new moses basket for your new baby.

Thanks guys, I thought I was being pregnancy unreasonable! It is just really irritating because frankly if I wanted the bloody box (which doesn't really fit in my house!!!!) I would possibly fork out the extra and buy a new one! But the thing is my mum has offered me her old toybox which is keeping crap in it at their house (only after I said I was a little shocked at the money for the other one iyswim) and that was bought for her by my grandad so has more sentimental value!

Re moses basket, a friend offered me one the other day which I am more than happy to take her up on as am definitely not precious about getting a new one (especially as I bought a new mattres for the old one so still have that here with me!).

Makes me feel much better about it, now all I have to do is stop being so wet and confront her about it - which I think is what she would not expect I think she is expecting the meek "yes whatever you say dear!"

Just tell her you don't want the box as it's too big, does she want you to ebay it or is she going to come and collect it