Sis has made me feel awful again.
I asked her and fiance to babysit 3 nights this year. Sent them an email months in advance, cos he complained last year that I had given no notice on the one occasion I asked. So thought I had better give more notice this time.
Putting all three dates in one email (one in May, June and July) he said, 'huh, asking a bit much isn't she?'
sis talked him down and made him realise he was being a tw@t.
First time, we had to go out after 9, cos it was friday and she would not give up her scouts for no man, even with months of notice. Second time, she forgot and said that 'she knew nothing about it' So I felt awful, like I had dropped it on them and he would gurn again.
This time I reminded her a week ago, but she didn't respond, so I text again last night and she said 'yes. you have mentioned it a few times' then 'Yes. we remember and will be there.'
Now I feel I am badgering her.
God I hate asking her to do anything like this for me. I feel so indebted to her, and him (she cannot possibly be without him for a night, no he her)
Not to mention that she wanted me for a day, to watch her have her hair and makeup done. DH had to work. So they said 'can one of your friends not take them?'
No!
Told him if she wanted me, HE could surely have them. He made such a fuss. Said he would have them, but at my house, but he had to be out by 1. She would not be finished til at least 3. 'Could one of my friends not come collect them' cos he would not drive them anywhere, or walk them to my friends.
In the end I had to ask my friend to take them for the day. It was just too much hassle and upset.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking that they both make me feel so awkward about asking for help. To the point I don't want to.
And yet, she will say 'I never see the kids' 'We will help you out anytime we can'
What and then make it as difficult for me as they can so that I feel awful in putting them both out?? And do not want to go ut anymore.
Then they will say, your marriage is struggling cos you don't go out as a couple often enough (ok, they said that last year, when we were floundering).