AIBU to be annoyed with my nan? Ok I do feel guilty but I can't help but be annoyed too.

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I should explain though that she brought me up so we have more of a mother/daughter relationship and we are very close.

My DS is 2.5. My brother has his passing out parade for the Army in September. I really want to go and see him. My nan told me she would have DS overnight! I was chuffed to think that me and DH were going to get 1 night away before we have DC2 next year and our first child free night since we had DS.

I booked the room. Mentioned to my nan that I had done it, then she said she wasn't sure. She spoke to her DH, my step grandad. No they won't do it as they feel he is too young. He does go up there all the time so they know him really well etc.

I understand really that they feel he is too young but she had also agreed to have DS when I go in to have DC2, she says that is different but the age gap isn't going to be much from September to January. She also sounded unsure about that too. We can't ask anyone else. I am pissed off that they have changed their minds after we have booked it. DS is a very early riser and I was really looking forward to 1 night where I wasn't going to be woken up early. Grrrrrr

I was a bit short with her just now on the phone and I feel guilty. DS will have to come with us which means a late night for him as obviously we will be in 1 room together, and the possibility of him not settling due to us being in the room. If is wasn't a Thursday night, I have several friends who would have done it, but they all work then.

Does dh have any family you could ask?

I see you're upset but she's obviously nervous and got cold feet , she's not being spiteful and probably feels dreadful

Unfortunately MIL works 5-8 every week day evening so she can't do it and SIL works full time, plus DS barely knows her as she sees him about twice a year. No one else we can ask.

That was the plan. To have a practice 2 weeks before as we only live 5 minutes away.

I have a feeling my step grandad has said no. She won't do it if he says no, but I also got the feeling that she changed her mind too. Even though earlier this year step grandad said about having DS overnight. Apparently he meant when he was older though.

What a nightmare, how about this: ask you nan and sgrandad if they would reconcider but have ds at your house rather than at thiers, own environment stair gate etc, sounds like a case of baby sitting jitters to me

Not a bad idea. I may ask my nan but the problem is she will have to ask my step grandad and he may start getting funny. He can be a bit funny sometimes.

My nan is my only babysitter and recently my step grandad caught me on the quiet to tell me that I had to tell him a certain time I was going to be home so he would know if my nan has had an accident on the way home. I said did he want me to phone him when she was on her way but he said no as he may be asleep.