to lock the door and close the blinds

[OnlyWantsOne]

...to lock the door and close the blinds so my neighbour cant see me, and therefore may go to her own bloody house?

I live in a semi detached house, and my neighbour and I have been quite friendly - however I have started to feel a little sad about the way she speaks to my DD (she has no kids and tells me she hates them)...

Everynight she comes home at 5.15 - by this point im about to have dinner with DD, which is the one time that her and I sit down everyday to share some time - and yet there is always a knock on the door from nextdoor madwoman asking for a cuppa and a chat and can she come in - this has been the case for about a month, at least once every other day if not every day...

She knocked 3 times tonight, I told DD that I didnt want to let any one as Im tired... she seemed fine with it.

I Understand that she is probably lonely, but shes made me very sad and cross recently and if thats the way treats other people, it doesnt surprise me.

I cant face any confrontation, and I cant turn her away... so... I feel guilty, AIBU?

Can you not just say "I'm sorry, not a good time, we're about to eat, how about ?"

I wish I could, but I find myself saying hello come in, or DD asks her in (round my legs)... or, once or twice, she has opened the door and stuck her head round it and called me

I think you need to put your foot down tbh.....you can't sit in your house with the curtains closed every day. next time you see her, just tell her politely that 5.15 really isn't a good time for you due to DDs tea etc etc and maybe suggest a more convenient time she can pop round? (i.e once a week on a sat/sun morning for coffee possibly?)

Er, GO OUT????? take a picnic to the park if feeding DD is an issue... hopefully mad neighbour will get the message eventually...

And NO, you are NBU!

Oh friendly neighbours, aren't they great?? Tell her that you can't do school nights, or meal times, tell her that its me time for you little one. I used to have to hide from my friendly neighbours, we moved in the end!!! good luck hun

Thing is you don't have to be a doormat here.
Next time just say, as OnlyWantsOne suggests, that this is Not a Good Time as it's DD's teatime. And keep saying it if she tries to brush it off.
You don't HAVE to put yourself at the convenience of this person out of embarrassment.

I wonder what happened about a month ago when this started? Has she some confidences she wants to share and is working her way towards them? Or is she just lonely and somehow thinks of you as her welcome home person?

As Katisha says you dont have to be her doormat-but neither do you have to be unfriendly. Offer her a less than convenient time for her-maybe later in the evening for 1/2 an hour .Same deal with cuppa and chat but then you really must get on with bath and bed.

Hopefully she will grow out of the habit she has started and will go back to being just the next door neighbour you chat to occasionally.

YANBU why do people have to invite themselves round to other peoples' homes like this .

You need to be polite but firm. Practice saying "really sorry 5.15 not a convenient time for us, it will have to be another time".

Lets face it, what planet is this woman on if she thinks that coming round for a coffee and a chat the minute you get home from work with your DD who needs her tea, is a good time?

Chain on the door so she can't push her way in.

YANBU.