Friend commenting all the time

[LadyBigBra]

So I have this friend she is lovely but likes to tell you what she thinks.
She has always commented on my clothes/looks even when I don't ask her opinion.
I am a size 14-16 (depending on the item) she knew me when I was a size 8 and seemed to delight in shouting at me across a shop once that I needed "To start thinking like a fat lass now" .
I had on a top yesterday that loads of people said I looked lovely in and she told me I looked buxom and had too much boob on show.
Today I had another new top on and I thought I looked really nice she has just seen me and said "no no no, boobs look good but your belly looks awful" .
I am now back in my usual jeans and top as I felt stupid wearing the top .
So bitchy for the sake of it or just trying to stop me looking daft?

Judging by your name, i'd say def boob envy!
I bet she's skinny and flat chested

at being told to 'think like a fat lass' at a size 14!

She might be lovely, but she is being thoughtless at the most charitable interpretation.

If youwere constantly asking her opinion it would be blunt. To make comments like these without being asked shows she is trying to put you down, maybe not consciously, but she is anyway. On some level she is jealous/threatened of you, and is "reducing you" by making these comments.

Worth bearing in mind next time she comes out with one such comment.

I also like the "Wow, that's rude," retort. You don't have to back it up,and even if she defends what she's said at the time as plain speaking, or other such malarkey used to excuse rudeness, she will think about it later.

Either get angry and tell her when you want her opinion, you'll ask for it, and until then she can feel free to keep her trap shut or fuck off.

Or do what has already been suggested and feign utter horror that a fellow human being could be so rude.

Or just skip all that and tell her to fuck off, end of. I would find it hard not to just do that TBH!

Get rid! She is being mean and hurting your feelinds and therefore does not fit the remit of 'friend'!

Point out how rude she's being, as others have said. She'll either be a. mortified at her behaviour or b. carry on making comments. If it's b. she's not a friend, she's a nasty, insecure frenemy. (Can you hear the voice of experience there?)

LadyBigBra

LadyBigBra's rude friend

Defo jealousy

I would just say really matter-of-factly: 'I find it really offensive when you make derogatory comments about my body. Please stop'.

FOFL ThatDamnDog

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Sorry, but I'm still gawping at the comment "You need to start thinking like a fat lass now".

Sounds to me like she's thrilled to see you've gained weight over the years.

What size is she LBB?

But she might not see you as a "fat lass" at size 14, which is not fat. A bit like joking that someone who says they've put on 2 lbs is going to have to go on a diet; of course they're not fat/going to have to diet and that's why you can joke about it.

So, when exactly is she 'lovely'??

Unless she has something like AS (and therefore be unaware that she's hurting your feelings), then I would say she's probably not a good friend to have.

Life is too short to spend with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Real friends do the opposite.

Throw em right back at her, "omg have u painted those jeans on?" or " are you ok you look really tired / unwell". I think shes worried your looking better than her!!!!!!!!!!

I once had a frenemy who would say stuff like, "Oh have you lost weight? Makes you look like a bit of a hag actually" I used to retort all the the time with, "Oh well, I'll just consider the source before I let that comment bother me."

She is no longer in my life I'm happy to say.