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to think friend should not be recording conversations in her house??!!

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lisad123isgoingcrazy · 19/07/2010 21:46

Found out today a friend has a listening thing in her house where her or her husband can call up on the phone and listen to conversations that happne in the house!
They brought it to listen in on the babysitter, but tbh sometimes I babysit, and their DDs do sometimes need telling off. Dont get me wrong I would never hurt them or even yell but they can be a handful, so dont know how teenage babysitter manages. I also dont know if he is using it when Im there talking to his wife or our other friends!

I feel really funny about going there now

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stripeyknickersspottysocks · 19/07/2010 21:48

I wouldn't babysit there any longer. I'd find it creepy and intrusive not knowing if someone was listening to me. They should trust the people they leave their kids with enough not to need to do this.

lisad123isgoingcrazy · 19/07/2010 21:50

thats what I thought too
I was having convosation with other friend while there oday about how this friend sometimes takes advantage of my good nature, eg ask me to have the girls and always arrive late, and then i find out her DH is home but wont come and get them.

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funnysinthegarden · 19/07/2010 21:53

why do they need to listen in to the babysitter?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 19/07/2010 21:53

Urgh, I wouldn't even visit, far less babysit! Have you checked for spycams as well?

Vallhala · 19/07/2010 21:57

I'd steer well clear, both as guest and babysitter. I wouldn't be surprised if sooner or later that listening device was used by one partner to discredit the other and I wouldn't want to be there during the fallout.

I think that it's going to turn ugly.

BTW, who in their right mind uses a babysitter whom they don't trust?

Weirdos!

drloves · 19/07/2010 22:02

its like the plot of a dodgy horror/slasher movie .

THE BABY SITTER JOB....
CTTV IN HOUSE
USED TO SPY ON BABYSITTER
ALL GOES WRONG WHEN THE H TURNS PSYHCO ....cert 15 at cinemas soon !

lisad123isgoingcrazy · 19/07/2010 22:05

well I know he doesnt trust her, but am pretty shocked to find out they have used it, phoned up and listened to babysitter. He brought it after he heard a babysitter talk harshly to the children while he was on the phone

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MudandRoses · 19/07/2010 22:08

That is so weird. As Valhalla said, why would you continue to use a babysitter you didn't trust? Unless you're naturally distrustful of everyone, in which case, not really the sort of person i'd want to be friends with.

said · 19/07/2010 22:08

Seriously weird. God, I talk to myself. Would be horrified at being taped. Stay away.

lisad123isgoingcrazy · 19/07/2010 22:10

how do i tell her?? Its her husbands idea, but im just not happy with it

is it even legal?

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StealthPolarBear · 19/07/2010 22:11

I'd be tempted to get this for when I have those "No you didn't tell me that" moments with DH

prozacfairy · 19/07/2010 22:12

Sounds like a nasty divorce waiting to happen imo.

I wouldn't babysit again and probably tell them why too. If you don't trust the person taking care of your kids don't let them. Not rocket science is it?

Kaloki · 20/07/2010 01:47

That's not normal behaviour What an odd thing to do

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 20/07/2010 01:48

"How do I tell her?" How did you find out? I'd just tell her that. There is no way I'd babysit -paid or not - in these circumstances.

ItsGraceActually · 20/07/2010 03:09

In posh nurseries, I gather, they have cams on the kids & staff ALL the time, and parents can log in to see what's going on. I find that ridiculous, but hey. We live in a surveillance society.

Can you ask her where the thingy is and switch it off? Or unplug the phone while you're there [evil grin]?

rupert22 · 20/07/2010 03:13

oh god its like when you get caught out on the dreaded baby monitor moaning about your mum who is down stairs listening to every word and putting her coat on

I would tell her i was not going back into her home

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