Would the school mind me asking if he can stay?

[Tiredmumno1]

Agghh damn now i am stuck.

ds was supposed to be starting at a sn school in sept, i thought he was ok about it, until today when he tells me he wants to stay here and he is adamant.

so i am now dreading having to ask tomorrow if he can stay. his last day was supposed to be wednesday so i dont have long.

if there are spaces left do you think they would mind if i asked?

If they have spaces I can't see it being a problem
but there must have been reasons why you wanted to move him, are you sure it's up to him to decide? How old is he?

When my DSs were small they were due to move primary schools after we had moved house locally taking us about 3 miles away from the school they went into.

I then found out I was expecting DD (had given up hope as it took 3 years) and the change in circumstances meant it was better if they stayed at the same school.

Neither place had been filled and the school were delighted to keep them.

However it is difficult to know how your school will react as if your son requires any special provisions this might be more challenging to re-organise for September.

Plus it must have been a very big decision to move your school from mainstream school. I'm not sure that's something you should undo at the last minute on what might be a whim of DS. You are the adult and presumably you thought there were good reasons why this move was the right thing to do?

I actually had been having second thoughts but had not said anything.

but looking at his work that they have given me, he has made good progress, i had also been noticing it at home, so i would not mind if he stayed in mainstream and see how he gets on.

he is statemented so sorting out his ta shouldnt be a problem.

he is 7 btw.

Dicuss your concerns with his teachers. if he is not having difficulty with his current school most schools would prefer to keep exiting children rather than have vacancies as this affects their funding (I think) also they know you and your child and this is an important time for you. i moved my dd due to closure of the after school club and it was the bestthing i did as she has come on leaps and bounds since i moved her when she was 5 and she is now 6. children adapt really easily to change as this is what they are used too, good luck

Thanks for the replies, it just feels like the circumstances have changed, and i really dont want to change it, if he is settled and coming along well, i dont think moving him at present is the best idea.

right then i will be having a chat with the head tomorrow.

i really hope it goes well.

You've got nothing to lose by asking. . They may already have given his TA notice, and may have to appoint someone new in September. This may lead to a delay in finding him a TA for September.

Just something to think about when you meet with the school tomorrow.

Crunch time, i dont know why but i am dreading it.

heres hoping they understand and there are spaces

let us know how it goes

Will do

phew looks like its good news, the head spoke to the ed dept, they say i just have to write to them so they can re amend the statement.

she wants a chat in the morning, i suppose to make sure its really what we want.

it acually went better than i thought.

thanks everyone

congratulations good to hear that everything worked out well for you

Glad it worked out and your DS got to keep his place