To not take MIL out for lunch with us tomorrow.

[MissMarjoribanks]

FIL and DH are installing a new kitchen sink tomorrow. MIL is incapable of staying at home on her own and so will be tagging along for a day at ours.

According to DH, apparently the temporary loss of a kitchen sink will prevent MIL eating anything. Therefore I should take her with me when I go for lunch with DS and my friend and her DS tomorrow. So as not to AIBU by stealth it is a v. regular thing and friend's own mum (but not MIL) has occasionally gatecrashed before.

MIL will stifle conversation as she is v. religious and we are irreverent and talk about e.g. bumsex.

AIBU to sneak off before DH drops huge hints so I can't get out of it? DH has asked me to get the MN consensus on this.

"would hubby dear take your mum out for lunch? me thinks not" Really? Mine would.

Gawd, sometimes I wonder if I've wandered into some strange parallel Les Dawson Dimension.

"Would it kill you to be nice?

You can talk about your arsehole next week."

Ha! My thoughts exactly (though mine weren't so pithily expressed). YABU, MissMarjoryBanks.

Sorry MMB, but YABU.

I agree that asking would be the best!

I'd take my MIL. I think YABU and would probably be construed as rude if you didn't at least ask her if she wanted to come. That said, my DH is in the Forces, so we often have visiting family, as do friends that I might go to lunch with. Therefore it's not at all uncommon for a DM or MIL to accompany us on a trip out. I took my MIL on holiday with me earlier in the year. DH was away. It was lovely.

You have a DS.... think of the karma for years to come.

OP-if you weren´t meeting a friend, would your husband be suggesting that you take MIL out for lunch?

If I had an arrangement with a friend there´s no way my husband would suggest I took his mum along.

char3mum - my DH would take my Mum out to lunch without a second thought. How sad that your DH wouldn't take your Mum.

I´m not sure that OP is against taking her MIL out for lunch-but doesn´t want ther foisting upon her & her friend.

Diddl - MIL never stays at home on her own. TBH she would probably have a better time - there is not a lot for her to do at our house. I think she can't pass up an opportunity to see her son. Actually, to give her her due she will do the ironing, for which I am extremely grateful, but this is one hour out of 8 or 9 and she spends the rest of the time sort of hanging around aimlessly or watching the telly.

DH wouldn't be suggesting I took MIL out if I wasn't already planning to go somewhere. We would all eat together at the house - sat down round the table, not grabbing a bite to eat when convenient.

Anyway, the issue has gone away now as my friend has cancelled and I have had another offer of a chippy lunch with my BF in her lunch hour at work. DH doesn't think his mum would enjoy this so has told me to get on with it without her.

I agree though - DH should have asked her!

Well I´m glad that that is sorted out.
I know my MIL would rather be seeing her son than lunching with me!

You could put a kettle, a microwave, cups, tea, coffee, cans of soup and a large canister of water in one room and ask her to "take care of the men" while you take DS out to meet his friend.

Appeal to her maternal instinct.