in thinking they should've told us this was a religious event?

[misdee]

today dd1, and school choir were singing at the towns 90th birthday celebration.

somehow we ended up at prasie in the park.

was a bit miffed.

i am not against religion, v v open-minded (raised as a jw), but would've preferred to make an informed choice abpuit it. rather than committing to dd1 taking part as a town b-day celebration, but instead attending an outdoor church service.

school and other choirs typically sing a lot of religious music

if you only wish your child to sing music from your own personal belief system / ideology then you need to inform the choir leader

i am not concerned about what the kids sang. they sang wonderfully by the way.

but i wasnt expecting full on church sermon, priest etc, other religious stuff.

we were told it was the towns 90th bday celebration.

glad they sung well

but if you have strong views about what events you child sings at you need to tell their teacher

you can't expect the school to guess the religious / ideological views of parents and their tolerance (or otherwise) of other people's views/traditions/cultures etc

i am not asking them to guess.

but none of the parents were told it was an religious event and we were all a bit miffed.

a lot scooted off as soon as the choir had finished, we stayed a bit longer as dd4 was really enjoying it (dancing and swaying to the music).

would've just like to have been told, so i could've been prepared, and maybe dressed a bit more modestly (was in my easy to breastfeed in top which showed a bit more cleveage that i feel comfortable showing at church events).

if its only modestly that concerns you then i woudlnt worry. pretty sure Jesus was breast fed

didnt know you had another baby - another wonderful Dd or a Ds this time????

was breastfeedind dd4 (20months old)

belated congratulations

Hmm. Do you live somewhere utterly whitebread? If not, then it seems a bit culturally insensitive to label something a town celebration when it is in fact exclusively peddling one particular brand of mythology ie if there are people living in the town who have no interest in the christian myth systems, doesn't an event like this suggest to them that they don't belong to the town?

YANBU and also what SGB said.

If it was a towns celebration I would have thought the programme of events would have been advertised in the local press.
I would have wanted some warning it was going to be a full on church service.YANBU