AIBU to want to smack step FIL right in the face!!!

[Hai1988]

Last night my MIL who i am very close to has found out that her husbond has been having an affair now this is the 13th one that she knows of that is !!!!

She keeps taking him back and taking him back, fear of being left alone with 4 kids still at home i think.

I really wanna go round and smack him right in the nose and mabye stomp on his bits for a while!! But what would be the point at i know that MIL will take him back just as just has done affair after affair.

How do i help her relise that she doesnt need this arsehole in her life anymore !!!!!!!!

BTW he isnt my step fil anymore he is just some knob who happends to be married to my MIL.
I hope for his sake he dont come near me in the next few days as i am fuming !

YABU - sorry but an affair is between the two people in the marriage and not you

Shes an adult and shes allowing him to treat her like this.

Take a step back - their marriage is none of your business.

YANBU to feel angry for your MIL YABU to want to intervene.

no i do not what to intervene in the affair part.
just want to relise that she doesnt need him in her life and that she has me and dh, and does not need him.

well he sounds like a twat, but of course he is going to keep doing it as she lets him get away with it

lying in made beds an all that

yeh i know that i keep telling her that if she just lets him back with no consicwences he is just gonna keep doing it!

I just feel so bad for her as its her birthday 2moro!

Just got of the phone from SIL i think i will agree with what you have said as she has once again taken him bk. I cant be fucked with it anymore

Sorry you feel so strongly but it is none of your business. You will have to try and be civil to him for your MIL's sake. He is obviously a twunt of the highest order though.

yeh well i have been "civil" for the past 6 years but i dont think i can do it any more neither are 4 of her children, the youngest is a daddys girl and he can do no wrong in her eyes. But being that he is not any of there biological father they dont really care for him any more.

So we are just gonna let MIL get on with it, but are we being unreasonable not to want to pick up the peices any more!

No, you're not being U to want to drop kick the guy but you would be U to actually do it!

And I dont think you'd be being U to tell him or your poor MIL what you think - how can you make the situation worse?

Eleanor - that is hitting below the belt in my opinion. If the OP is not discussing her own situation on the thread then don't bring it up - it's not your place

not particualy at least my DH can keep it in his fucking pants!

TKM I dont think i would of attually done it, i was just so angry, but now tbh just gonna let em get on with it.

Thanks DDF, really starting to regrent making that thread as i cant seem to have another thread of a convosation with some1 on ere any more without some1 mentioning it !

Eleanor - like Hai said, it's not supporing her if she is pushed into a corner and chastised about not changing her home situation every time she ventures on here to alk about somethaing else.
Yes it's sad that her home life is unhappy in alot of ways, but she will cha nge that only when she is ready, not when she is told to...
I know you feel sorry for the OP, but making her feel that she cannot come here for companionship (or at least without namechanging and therefore being a strange face all the time) is not helping her is it?

apologies for crap typing btw

Like I said in my other thread i did get angry and sort my situation out!

We are great now, we have a joint account so we both have a card now, we also have a saving account which i have had for a while now in justmy name that we put money into and the card says at my mums.

He does not hit me and as i said in my previous thread the last time he did this was nearly a year ago. Things are good now, just wish i could move on from it on ere.

Thanks Eleanor for ur concern but things are now sorted.

Thanks DDF X

Good to hear Hai