To not think it's worth trying for a long-term long distance relationship?

[Beethoven]

Met a new man, he's got a job in Exeter with a fixed contract for four years. I've just started a full-time university course (I'm a mature student) that will keep me in Cardiff for four years. Unless I drop my course or he changes his job, I don't even see the point in trying for a long-distance relationship for four years, even though we have fantastic chemistry.

AIBU?

Ladyanonymous,

I do think you may be right about me using the distance as an excuse. We met when we were both in Exeter. I wanted to move to Cardiff to be closer to my family as I'd been unhappy in Exeter.

However, when I left, the man was very, very upset, saying how he thought I was the one. He wrote letters to my parents. I am drawn to him, but I would be so scared to upset him in the way I upset him before. I think he might be better without me.

I was expecting the Atlantic to be between you when read title. Not that far away at all.

Im sorry to read that, i would say if you are not as into him as he is you (and it looks like that way) i would just let him go.

FWIW i LOVE Exeter, im from there and miss it alot, hence getting down there as often as i can (its not so far from Swindon as it was from Guildford)I moved to Guildford to start my degree from Exeter and had a great time (even though i was 33 and a single mum) perhaps given your age and you starting Uni you would be maybe better off single. Good luck though whatever you decide.

I have managed a 25 year relationship with my husband, and the four years we have lived together now, is the longest we have ever lived together. He is in the Navy, was often away for months without any contact at all, and we spent two years with him in Belgium, ds and I in Cornwall and we only saw each other every six weeks during term time and for more in the holidays when ds and I would travel to Brussels.

For 5 years we weekended with dh being near London, and then near Swindon and me in Cornwall, so for us that kind of thing is perfectly normal. It gives you time to study during the week and to see him at weekends.

You are putting barriers in the way; what you are describing is perfectly feasible and many of us deal with it without any problems at all.

there were 250miles (5 hours on a good journey) between me and OH

i moved to him eventually (not possible for him to move), but if i couldnt would have worked with the distance for as long as it took...

if you are doubting it perhaps he really isnt your mr right?

and imo 2 hours is not that far