DH always asleep

[Mothergrimm]

AIBU to expect my DH to be awake after I have put our DD to bed? He works aewy during the week so I have to do everything forthe house and the 3 DC during the week, but I also do everything during the weekend aswell. By everything I mean the lot, bins, gerden, gettine children up, washing, tidying, thinking and doing. Tonight really got to me, I just want some adult coversation that isn't with our 13 year old DS after 9 pm. So tired of everything falling to me. Had a lovely day out today but it would have been SO mumch better if DH had interacted with the children better. Middle child only complaimned when left with DH. DH seem to be always asleep or on some coputer thing, really fed up. What should I do?

Also, while getting ready for day out he did his usual of just staying in bed while I got every one up, made sure the picnic was in a bag, etc, etc. Then when we got to our destination he complained because picnic chairs weren't in the boot! We were also late setting off as had to look for his wallett.
I want a partnership not another child!!

Have you told him any of this?

You need a very serious conversation with him. You are being walked all over!

Yes, have told him this in the past. Hairy T think I realise this which is why I am so upset tonight. Cannot stop crying. Want a husband not another person to look after. But he walks off and won't talk abot this. Wont even have an argument with me. Why?

Because he's too tired?

Might there be a medical reason for this?

And I bet about a million pounds that right now he is fast asleep in bed and will expect sex in the morning!! I really want to scream at him, but how to make it the most effective?

Don't think there is a medical reason. When we've had these spats before he then manages to stay awake for the next few weekends. Its like he can't be bothered. He has at leasst 7hrs sleep a night. And always sleeps really well. The children have never woken him up - right from the start.

Nonetheless, it might be worth finding out a little about sleep apnoea, and asking your DH to get himself checked. I know three men with this; one acknowleges it (he snores incredibly noisily, then goes silent.... then snorts and starts over, so it's a pretty clear case), one completely denies it, and the third was shocked at his diagnosis at the age of 50. It turned out that he's not actually sleeping for more than 30 seconds at a time, although he gives the appearance of sleeping well (and doesn't snore at all!)