One of my first posts on MN and its in the AIBU one
Long story short my child has a history of febrile convulsions and a few other health 'red flags' which have culminated in us getting a consultant referral. GP is fantastic although he is sure it's 'probably nothing' he would like an expert opinion.
The MIL aspect is that we can't tell her. She cries at everything. She couldn't handle us having to rehome our dog for his behavioural issues and cried at my daughter's birthday party when she saw where his bed used to be (grr). Husband won't entertain the idea of telling her about Emily's ptential health problems until there's something to tell as 'I don't want to have to deal with the tears, I'll shout at her'.
AIBU to think that we should be able to tell her things about her grandchild without worryig about her feelings? The upshot is she might have epilepsy or Type 1 diabetes and we can't risk telling MIL in case it upsets her. To my mind WE need the support not vice versa, and if my child is potentially having a life-changing conditions, it's not my MIL's feelings I'll be worrying about.
She's lovely - a generous and nice person, but she's an 'I stayed up all night worrying about XXX' sort of person.
Husband is the strong one - he had to hold his dog as a teenager when he was put down because his parents were crying too much, I guess it's always been that way but I find it difficult because I've always been able to tell my parents things and got practical help back. Emotion later once the crisis has passed. As I said to a paramedic on our most recent ambulance ride 'I'm fine, stop checking ME over, I'll crack up later once we know she's ok'.
Maybe I'm just venting.
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