mosschops - I have a 'title' for your holiday video 'Heaven or Hell?'.
It's difficult, because we seldom post when the DH's do something 'good', but we post frequently when they do something 'twattish' so everyone just sees the 'twattish' side of everyone else's DH's (generally speaking). So, yes, for a while now it does seem as though your DH could get a 'Big Twat' award - yet I am sure there is some good in him or you'd have kicked him to the curb right??
When you are tired and fed up everything seems worse - so maybe, if you hadn't been tired and pissed off, what you might have seen was DH trying to sort the baby out and the baby just not settling... it's not like they'd left him in the corner of the room on his own - maybe a possibility??
As for the video - I too hate being on videos and if I'd been up since 4.30 I wouldn't have been impressed either. Maybe you need to be a little less emotional (to not give them any bait) and quietly point out that having been up since 4.30, you'd really appreciate them not doing it while you feel shite and ask which of them is making you a cup of tea. Try not to give rise to their childish baiting.
Some men are immature and if you don't want them giving you 'the look' and 'taking the piss' it really pays to be calm & make clear statements, rather than stomping around.
Do you enjoy working? If not, why not tell your DH that as you only work 24 hours and it's not really contributing to the finances (I don't think that, but it's how he makes it sound!), that you have decided for family harmony to hand in your notice, that it's all too much while the children are still so young. When he coughs and splutters and says you can't afford to do that - then you can tell him he'd better not use only in conjuction with you & work again.
If you enjoy working - then try telling him that you working 24 hours doesn't seem to be enough for him, so you are going to go back full time - ask him what nurserys are on his way to and from work, so he can do the drop offs and collections?
Is he taking turns with the children in the night? If not, why not? (working full time is not an excuse if you work part time & do everything else for the kids).
Why is he not cooking dinner some nights?
It generally sounds like he is taking the piss, taking you for granted and expecting you to 'look after' him as well... he needs putting straight!