My partner is very overweight ,he recently had been diagonised with Gout and has been told if he does not cut drinking,over eating he will not live to see his kids past 40,as he will more than likely

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have a heart attack,I will admit he has let himself go, I love him and want the best for him and our d'sc,he should start to take care of himself for his own health and for for our children.
I do not want to lose him,My only grieviance is that he works long hours,so he can only exercise in the week in the eve
I appreciate this but find myself bringing up two children on my own alot,We do not get much time alone,or Family time.
I want him to be healthy and will support him but he also says he will encourage me to have more free time with childcare in the week so I can have some free time to myself.
Aibu? to think three night's out is to much?,two nights are now boys night,the other a fitness night.
Is he taking the pee a bit or aibu?.
Thanks for reading and listening.

Oh and he can pay for the childcare even better.

or he can get take-away, drink and gamble... which he might think is a bit of a result as well, lol...

he should stop all drinking/gambling until he is losing weight and proving it. 1 night a week is a joke. send him out for a jog every evening.

This happens quite often in relationships because people mature at different rates. What you're really saying here is that you wish he'd grow up... take more responsibility for his health, think of the future, not pretend to be 'one of the lads' quite so much.

AYBU? No. Is it likely to happen? The track record on this sort of thing is not good. Short-term gratification often wins out over long-term consequences. Good luck.

Thanks for all of your advice,its been taken on board.