to expect my DP to do *some* housework?

[WillMcSquirtersMum]

I don't expect him to do half, all I'm asking for is just some light tidying a couple of times a week and putting his clothes away after I've washed them. I'm currently on maternity leave with DS2 (now 6 months). DS1 at nursery 4 days a week.

He claims he does lots as all the gardening is left to him, but that's only lawn cutting for 6 months of the year and about 2 days tidying in the spring.

I got a right ear bashing this morning as I took him to work and dropped DS1 off at nursery about how untidy the house is. I do my best, but I'm limited to when DS2 is napping, and I have to cook then.

No Yanbu. This must be the most common row in virtually every household in the land second only to who is the most tired.

I completely sympathise with you, my dh is never gonna win any "new man awards" either. That said, despite having the same old "discussion" about housework almost on a loop, we never get anywhere with it. You could try the loads-of-praise-approach every time he so much as picks up his pants or the learn to live with it approach. If you try the latter, avoid talking to people with saintly house husband type blokes because it only pisses you off. The third and more drastic way is to phone the divorce lawyer.

If you find a wonder cure, let me know... I blame the mother-in-law spoonfeed school of child rearing. To all you mums of boys, PLEASE have pity on their future partners and teach them to cook and help out.

sorry if that sounded like overeaction chil

my interpretation...

onesock
My DP does help out with laundry, cleaning, cooking washing up. But in all honesty the ratio is 65: 35 and I'd like it to be 50:50

he does not get as annoyed by mess as I do, and is not great at multitasking

he also "rests" I will rest when I am dead

YANBU - but good luck with that one. My DH is one of thos DH's, MIL has always done absolutely EVERYTHING for him, he always lived at home, until moving out with me..
She has set me up for a lifetime of scivvying, i don't think you can teach an old dog new tricks.

I think you need to come up with an arrangement you can both agree with..otherwise one of you will always feel hard done by and it will breed resentment. I recommend doing somekind of rota listing all the jobs that need doing (I think sometimes DHs just don't have a bloody clue about how much is involved in keeping a household clean and running smoothly!), showing him said rota and apportioning a few jobs to him whilst emphasising how many jobs you will be doing compared to his measly share.

Even if he can't do any housework during the week (assuming he works mon-fri) there's really no excuse why he can't pitch in at weekends.