SDeuchars, thank you, no I wasn't aware of HE Special but it's a comfort to see it. I think it will come to me HE-ing again as the alternatives appear to be putting DD2 in a Pupil Referral Unit or dumping her into the next nearest school/the school which is next on LA's the list to accept an excluded pupil and then waiting for the same problems to happen again.
A PRU isn't going to happen - putting a child with behavioural problems which are exacerbated by bullying and feeling threatened into a PRU will not only have an adverse effect on her, the effect that her behaviour will have on DD1 and I will be too much for us to cope with.
If the LA offers another school instead of PRU, no matter where it is, it will be one I cannot reach in emergency (currently alone and car-less in a rural village), where DD2 knows no-one and I can't see that will help. Unless they are going to offer a solid promise of an Ed Psyche assessment before the proposed date of entry and a subsequent plan of action to prevent a recurrence of recent events, I would only be damaging DD2 by accepting and making my and DD1s lives misery owing to her behaviour at home when she feels under threat. So, I'll have no choice but to HE again, though tbh I don't relish the thought as a lone parent without any support, no transport and so on.
Atm I'm waiting patiently to hear what the LA have to offer. DD2 has had work sent home to cover the first 5 school days but come Monday the LA are obliged to provide her with an alternative f/t education. I have yet to hear from them.
I intend to fight for an appropriate education for DD2 but don't see it happening and have already started to drop back into HE mode. (Was discussing and researching our village's war history laast night!).
So, in short... I'll see you over on the HE threads very soon, I think!
Thank you again.
(And a huge sorry for the hijack, Lady.