to tell mum not to come round to clean my house?

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My mum likes her house with minimal ornaments, just one or two, and it's always clean and tidy and spotless. I have what I think is a typical house, there's dust but not inches of it, it's tidy-ish but there are piles of paperwork and stuff lying around. I am HAPPY in my house. Now and again it gets a bit wrecked and it takes a few days of cleaning and sorting to get it looking ok again. Mum always offers to help when it's like that and now and again I take her up on it.

Today I was round mums, they've been on holiday for a couple of weeks. She asked me to go round there tomorrow to help with the garden and said "Oh and when we're done I'll come back with you and help you do your house." I said that it was ok, I just needed to dust and put a few bits away and she said "But I can come and have a real go at it, I don't mind." I said a quite firm No, and she was a bit offended.

Thing is, my house is OK right now. It's not her idea of perfect, but it's clean and relatively tidy. And she wants to 'have a go at it', in other words make it all spick and span like hers. We just don't live like that! And I find it horribly stressful when she does come to clean like that, because I feel that she's judging my housekeeping and finding it not up to scratch.

God, sorry, that got awfully long. The point is, AIBU to tell her to leave my house alone? Or should I grit my teeth and let her come and do what she wants and get a lovely perfect shiny house that won't last 10 minutes but will make her all happy?

Ooh you lot are lucky if your mums come and clean!!! My mum often comments on how "full of junk " our lovely treasured mementos from years of never chucking anything out(!! shock !!) our house is and tells me how to clean it but doesn't do it for me!! Maybe I'll fwd her this link

I am the Mother in my tale. My DD's house is utter chaos. She is always asking me to come and organise it. I couldn't understand how every time I visited it had got worse.
Then a friend told me that when she is feeling lazy at the weekend she puts her feet up chats on FB and says " Don't worrry I will invite DM for lunch on Monday".
What a cheek. I will be resisting the temptation to be Mary Poppins in future.

My mum cleans when she's here. I tell her not to, but she does anyway. She also buys me cleaning products if she doesn't think I have the latest gadgets, and replaces my tea towels regularly as she thinks they are dirty (and to be fair to both of us, they're clean but stained as DH tends to use them to mop up coffee and any other spills in the kitchen).

My mum is ace.

If my MIL did the same thing though I'd feel horrendously judged and defensive though! :D

" Don't worrry I will invite DM for lunch on Monday".

That is cheeky, I don't presume my mum will and certainly don't invite her for that reason, I just cross my fingers and hope (I bloody HATE folding clothes).