to have asked for some items to be eventually returned after use when I loaned my sister a bin bag full of baby clothes?

[ilikeyoursleeves]

Sister is 7 months PG with DC2. She is expecting a boy and already has a girl. I have 2 boys and may have another one day in the future. I gave her a massive bin bag full of clothes today, some that have had lots of wear from my boys such as baby gros, vests etc, but also loads of tiny baby outfits that they have worn only a few times since they grow so fast at that stage.

I said to her that she could just bin some of the older things if she didn't want them (like the bobbly baby gros) to which her and her man slagged me off for giving them 'things fit for the bin', and when I asked if she could return the things that are obviously still pretty brand new (after she uses them) in case we have another DC they then slagged me off even more because I wanted them back! She gave everything of her DD's away to charity shops and would have no doubt just given all my DS's clothes away to charity after she had used them if I hadn't asked for them back one day.

I have barely bought anything for my DS2 as 90% of DS1's clothes were in perfect nick so I am hoping to do the same again one day for a possible DC3.

Was IBU about this? I thought I was being nice and they just laughed at me!

At the risk or wrath,i think you sort of brought this on yourself, albeit trying to be nice. Sister didnt ask for the clothes, and may just see it as another chore, to sort the nice from not so nice, and having to remember what to return, even though she doesnt really want the clothes.

I would always be wary of 'lending' items anyway, "neither a borrower or a lender be"

The other thing to consider is, this is your sisters first boy, why would she want to put him in your boys old worn bobbly babygros and vests.? These are not items one should be 'lending', they are surely fit for the bin?

She is probably insulted. At least your kids got them when they were new.