to move 45 mins walk away from ds's school

[biddysmama]

ok, i live in a tiny 2 bed council house, theres a hole under my fire that the council say cant be filled even tho the pest control chap has told them that how rats are getting into my house...

i have 2 dcs and one on the way and 3 bed houses are like rocking horse shit round here, ive been on the council list for a year and bid on every 3 bed that comes up...we currently lie 30 mins walk from ds's school.... he has aspergers and i dont want to change schools as it took him 18 months to settle into this school! (as in he refused every morning to go to school, we had to carry him in kicking and screaming)

ive found a private 3 bed!! its huge!! 2 downstairs rooms, back kitchen, rat free!!!, 2 bedrooms and a huge attic for ds....

but its an extra 15 mins (45 mins all together) from school, cant get school bus or transport help cos its in another schools catchment area, my friends say i'm mad and to just change schools

what do you think? i think i'd rather walk the extra way for the good of the kids (iyswim?)

Well, 45 minutes walking isn't going to kill anyone (and will be good for your general health and fitness). However, think around the whole picture - it's not just 45 minutes walking for you, it's 45 minutes there, and 45 minutes back, twice a day (assuming you walk him to school). Factor in the time you'll spend hanging around in the playground waiting for him to go in/come out, and you're talking about nearly 2 hours morning and afternoon.

Is this do-able for you? In all weathers? I'm not saying it's impossible, just that you should be sure of what you're letting yourself in for.

Go for it - if it doesn't work out you can reconsider the schools then but you might as well give it a go and the house soudns great.

YANBU at all, I can't imagine there being much joy in having an extra 30 minutes at home if it was somewhere unpleasant with rats.

Move, now, before it is snatched up by someone else.

3 hours is an awful chunk out of your day (there and back twice), esp with a new baby.

But, in the long term it may get easier if your son is able to go on his bike. Obviously that may not be do able, depending on road conditions, but cycling is massively faster than walking.

It sounds as though you don't have the dad around to help out?

Jesus, hadn't noticed the bit about the rats. Move. Now. The rest will work itself out.

Move. It will be fine. There will be no rats! Losing an hour a day at home (15 mins each way twice) is worth it if the time you spend in the house is rat-free.

How old is DS?

Move first and then consider changing schools if the walk becomes too much.

dad is around but he works all day

ds is 8, he cant walk on his own, he wouldnt go!

My view would be You will never know until you try it, I would be gone from any place with rats no way would I stay esp with children. It would be better for you son to move house and have the continuity of the same school rather then a new home and a new school which maybe totally overwhelming for him, If the school is meeting his social and educational requirements could you see if that would be a route to go down regarding transport to the school.
Good luck whatever your choice is and Best wishes on you forthcoming dc

I would move
could ds' dad drop him off in the mornings before going to work?

he starts work at 6 am

Bicycles?

Move, then work on the logistics. I am sure Rats are not good for ASD.

When you've moved think about changing schools, and do investigate help with transport. Does your son have a statement?

But good luck!

Move, then work on the logistics. I am sure Rats are not good for ASD.

When you've moved think about changing schools, and do investigate help with transport. Does your son have a statement?

But good luck!

i'm sure rats are no good for anyone!!

but are you sure about giving up your tenency? have you really pushed and pushed the council to fix the rat prooblem? env health? local mp?