to want to go to a bbq and not to see a kid's movie?

[Numberfour]

I told DS (5yrs) that I would take him to the cinema today. We are supposed to leave in about hour and a half. I have just received an invitation to go to a bbq instead! Obviously the family has been invited.

DS says NO! he wants to see the movie.

I want to go to the bbq.

DH wants to go fishing.

Should I be bossy boots and say OY! WE ARE GOING TO THE BBQ!!!!!

Seriously, though. I don't know whether to force DS to go or not. I would be breaking a promise if we did not go to the cinema, but we could go next week!

I think it would be mean to break your promise simply because a better invitation (in your eyes anyway- BBQs can be very boring for young kids) has come up. Why not go and see the film, and then go along to the BBQ for a while after the film?

YABU you promised ds

Plans change.
Go to the BBQ.
He can see it next week.

I'd tell him the film was sold out and we can go next week.

He's 5. You're not. Its up to you where you both go.

YANBU.

Quite RB.
We use a family calendar and all planned outings are on it.In such a scenario, I get my kids to watch me cross out 'film' and write it in a week later.They know it will still happen but accept I'm in charge.

Well, I would say I'm really, really sorry dd but there is only a BBQ this week but we can go next week to the cinema and I will get you some popcorn to say sorry! (or buy some smarties to have on the way or something). Dd is quite reasonable with this sort of thing though!

It's not really nice to break your promise, but these things happen.

You promised your son - so would go to the cinema - a bbq will last longer than the 90 minutes of the film so why not go afterwards.

I would understand if it was something else bbut breaking a promise over a bbq?

Kid's movie versus jolly bbq with mates (which the kids will love too).
No brainer.

Thanks! But we have reached a compromise:

DH goes fishing
I take DS to the movies
We go to the bbq later.

The friend who invited us said that it would be 100% fine to go later, and that it would be lovely to see us.

All's well that ends well . I have a happy DS and a content DH and we are all off later to the bbq.

Its good to show him you compromised too

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