to think DH ahould have stayed at home?

[mermummy]

DD has got a bit of a tummy bug and was up a few times last night. Much better today and kept temp down by staying in paddling pool.

However what really gets to me is that we had been due to visit BIL and family and stay the night. Was not keen TBH and then when DD got sick I definitely wasn't going to take her. Have to be able to drop her to childminder's on Mon and work.

DH went anyway. Reason being we hadn't seen BIL and his family since christmas, not for any feuding reasons just last time they were due to visit us DD was sick then as well.

Before we had DD we always fell in with BIL and his family because they were the ones with ch. Dh has always been a very dedicated uncle, but Ireally feel that he should have stayed home with me and DD today. Especially since he went to Glasto only a couple of weekends back.

I spoke to BIL to let him know DH was on way down, all he said was "so not going to see you two today?" Had I been him and had such huge influence over my little brother I would have told him to stay at home with his sick baby and wife.

AIBU to think he shouldn't have gone and BIL should have stopped him? (And I do know I should have been honest with DH and then perhaps he would not have gone and would not be sitting here fuming and posting)

Sorry this is very long and possibly a bit inappropriate considering some shit that some ladies on here put up with. Now off to find vino.

a child who is well enough to spend hte day paddling in the pool and is 'much better ' than the previous day, is not one who is poorly enough to require both parents to look after her..

had your DD been sixck, in bed, feverish, puking/pooing constantly and you needed a hand with bed changing etc and lookinga fter her and you getting a break, tehn that would not be unreasonable

sounds like a clash of wills, you begrudge the ' huge influence' his brother has.. you wnat the bigger influence..

you've not seen tehm for 7 months, your daughter was a bit under the weather, you were looking for an excuse not to go, which you got, but no reason AT ALL for your DH not to see his brother and family

YABVU and selfish and i think there is a big back story to this

I would have gone to see my family if a visit was arranaged and I hadnt seen them in that long. If DD was well enough to be in the paddling pool I would have dosed her up and taken her too.. if she was really too ill to come I would have left her at home with DP and gone myself... he would be only too happy to saty and look after sick child so I could visit my family who I love and would miss terribly after 6 mths.