Have I done anything wrong?

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I am the Fundraising co-ordinator for our local preschool and we are currently running a raffle to raise funds for some outside play equipment.

All the children were given 5 strips for thier parents to sell or return. I sorted them all out last week and I have the raffle ticket book. Therefore I didnt give DS any raffle tickets, I jut took them from the book. I have asked all his family and have managed to sell 13 strips, more than I would if I had only had the 5 given to the other parents.

Now one Mum is whinging that I had more opportunity to sell tickets and have gone over my quota. Now 5 was never the limit and parents could ask for more if they had wanted to. The same mother has returned two of her strips as she cant find anyone to sell them to.

All I did was sell a few extra tickets and raised some more ££££. I thought that she was worried that I had bought them all myself and so would have a better chance of winning, but all the strips have been sold to different family members (I have bought three strips). I pointed this out and she still said I had 'Abused my position'.

Have I done anything wrong. I dont think I have but I cant see it from the other side.

Oh for heaven's sake. She's obviously one of these people who will ALWAYS find something to complain about.

If you'd only sold 2 books she would have complained about that too. Suggest to her that she takes over co-ordination of next fundraiser, and stand back as she runs for the hills. Oh, and YANBU.

I think she is mad. But you should have made it clear that there was no limit and that more could be gotten iyswim. You'd better hope you don't win a crappy bottle of wine, their eyes will be daggers

That sounds daft! I guess she feels that your friends/family will have more chance of winning, but if she couldn't sell all her tickets, then it's not like it affects her directly. Was it very clear that parents could have extra tickets to sell if they wanted? If so, then no, you haven't at all abused your position!

Ignore her. She's a muppet.

Some people will moan about ANYTHING!?

Just smile sweetly and assure her that next time, you'll hand the entire raffle book over to her and let her take care of it all as she clearly has a much clearer idea than you about how these things should be done.

Or alternatively, tell the silly woman to go and get a life.

Goodness, it's a school raffle not a flippin' UN summit!

YANBU - you raised lots of money so good on you

You have done nothing wrong.

I won 2 prizes at the playschool raffle and was made to feel I should hand one back. Why?

Enjoy your prizes.

Does this woman seriously have nothing better to think about? What an idiot. No - you have done nothing wrong.

YANBU do not waste any more of your energy worrying about this. Perhaps you could suggest that she do it next time.

I think you should definitely tell her that you have thought about her comments, and in the light of what she said, you think she'd be far better at running the next raffle so you'll happily hand it over to her - and then watch her leg it for the hills!!

"abused your position"? ROFL

You have done nothing wrong at all - I'm sure you let everyone know that more strips were available to sell if needed? And she only managed to sell 3 of hers so wtf is she complaining about? If you'd given her 10 strips, she'd still only have sold 3, so that would have been 7 unsold strips instead of 2.

I agree with SDTG - tell her she'd better do the next one seeing as how she's so concerned about your integrity!

How ridiculous! YANBU. (How did she know that you had sold 13 strips anyway?)

Fabster One year I also won 2 prizes at the school raffle and, reluctantly, felt obliged to step back and allow other participants the opportunity to win the box of lavender scented drawer liners.

'You're absolutely right, it is embarrassing my family having all these tickets - almost makes it look as if I've made more effort than anyone else to sell tickets.

'Obviously, I wouldn't usually ask my family to buy tickets for the raffle after they've already all made such generous anonymous donations, but it's so important that the kids get the play equipment, I did feel justified in pestering.

'It's really rescued the ticket sales. Would you believe some people didn't bother to get any more tickets off me after shifting their first allocation?!

'We even had somebody or other giving back unsold tickets!

'I'm so glad you've pointed out that I'm too nice to organise it properly - you're quite right, you would be much better at it.

'I do hope grandma wins something, though - I felt quite mean taking her last tenner, but of course it's for a good cause, & she did say it'd only take a few more months to save up for ds's birthday present - bless him, he says he doesn't mind waiting'

Or you could just cheerfully agree with her that yes, you & your family are an organised cartel with a ruthless determination to bag that home-made chutney & dusty Yardley Lavender Gift Set, & let her seethe off to be told not to be so bloody silly by, well, the entire universe & everyone in it.

At our school you are only allowed to 'win' one prize regardless of how many of your tickets are drawn!

I've raised over $25,000 NZ over the past year for our school's new playground and have recently hung up my hat due to stupid bitches like this one!!! Tell her if you'd taken them and not paid you would have abused your position and if you havn't had the draw yet give her more strips and tell her to get selling and drop the money and stubs back by X date.

BTW I rather embarrassed to win 3 prizes of a 6 draw raffle I helped to organise a few weeks ago (small spot prize draw and a disco). DSs ran up waving tickets for 1st prize, told them to put the 2nd ticket back and was out of the room when the DSs ran apparently frantically to the stage to collect another prize. And what did I win a bottle of reisling I had put in (somebody bought it for a dinner party a year ago and was gagging to get rid of it) and a bottle of sparking grape juice and YES people complained - I said take the prizes - PLEASE Needless to say the Reisling went in last weeks raffle at the book fair and this time was not won back!!

Thanks everyone - I am glad that you all agree that I havent overstepped the line. I suppose I am a little enthusiastic, but someone has to be!

Raven - I love those, will have to remember them