Nursery have suggested CMP/ egg allergic dd wears a T-shirt to say this

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dd is 12 months
So far the nursery have been great keeping dd safe and they are doing staff training etc. I am taking in food for her.
This morning they suggested she wear a T-shirt at nursery to say this.
I'm uncomfortable with this but also feel that if I don't agree and something happens I will ultimately be responsible.
I can't really pull out my reasons for feeling uncomforable.
What would you do?

Don't know what CMP is sorry, but feel having a t shirt with here allergies on is alittle over the top.

HER allergies!

Surely they have procedures and safeguards to make sure they are feeding the right things to the right kids??? And especially if you are providing the food.

How severe is the allergy, is the reaction likely to be extreme i.e. do they think you would you feel happier with an additional safeguard?

OK at her age it is not going to make any emotional difference to her wearing such a t-shirt, but what happens when she gets a bit older. Also, does anyone read what is on a babies t-shirt, I mean lots of them have random logos on

dd4 has t-shirts stating 'please do not feed me, i have allergies' she has milk, egg and peanut allergies. i put the t-shirts on her when we are at toddler groups, or anywhere where a well meaning adult might give out food andd not think about it. i think it serves as a reminder. dd4 is 18months and obviously isnt aware of what she can and cant have. as she gets older we will teach her about her allergies and make sure she knows.

Sorry I don't know what CMP means either.

I doesn't give me much confidence about the nursery though that they need this to identify your daughter's allergies.

DD goes to nursery and I've noticed signs for children there with food allergies beside where they eat.

Even my DD knows that one boy in particular can't eat dairy!

cmp=cows milk protein

one of dd4 t-shirts

and the other two

I think that your nursery staff should all know that she has alergies so it shouldn't be necessary there.
misdee those are fab! I think that eg at toddler groups it is a good idea cos well- meaning people (it has been me before ) do hand out food.
But nursery - "I agree with this: I doesn't give me much confidence about the nursery though that they need this to identify your daughter's allergies."
I taught in a school of 500 kids and the ones with major allergies came round to see us so we knew who they were, and therefore not to feed them.

also dd's school, have photos of each child with allergie sand list of allergies beneath the pics in classroom, medical room and kitchen.

I don't have concerns about the nursery not being able to cope with this. Dd1 has egg allergy (and lentils, pineapple and strawberry- which she has now grown out of) and they have coped with this for over 2 years with no slips.

They have other safeguards in place such as her own highchair, plates, bowls. They cordon off areas where other children are given milk. They run regular training events for staff, to which I am invited. They have pictures of all the kids with allergies. All the staff are aware and are excellent. Overall I have been very impressed.

I guess I think a T-shirt would be ok at the moment but will be concerned when she is older. I don't want her to be defined by her allergies but still shouldn't I think anything that proetcts her is a good thing.

I mean of course I have the usual concerns that anyone has leaving allergic kids anywhere but I feel they are doing everything possible to help her.

Its nothing like the level of anxiety I feel when grandparents look after her!

Pixie - How long should she have to wear it for, eventually she'll notice. Maybe they should do the same with any child who has a different need, oh wait what does that remind me of?

I agree in certian other situations it's a good idea, i agree that it would give me big concerns about the nurseries ability.

This website has allergy alert bibs, t-shirts, badges and wristbands especially for little kids.
www.alwaysreadthelabel.info

It is nothing the same as an insulin pump/glasses/hearing aids!

She shouldn't have to wear it at all.

I'd rather the nursery did the job the are expected to do tbh.

That is passing all the responsibility on the parent, 'oh well she wasn't wearing a tee to say don't give her egg it's not our fault we did'

Thank you for all your thoughts- keep them coming.

I don't feel the nursery are passing the buck. In fact they are mega- zealous about keeping her as safe as possible.

I'm keen for anything to keep her as safe as possible.

I guess I'm worried about her being defined by her allergies when she is so much more than that. I remember having a quiet weep when dd1 was introduced as ' with the egg allergy'. This kind of feels the same

I wouldnt see it as the nursery passing on its responsibility - more that they are trying to cover as many possibilities as they can, and trying to keep LO safe beaing in mind that nurseries have several members of staff and her individual carer may not always be there due to sickness or holidays

Once she is old enough to say "No I can't have ..." then it would be more of an issue, but for now, what difference does it really make? She is too young to understand what the t shirt is all about - and presumably they would accommodate to make sure it was the right size and so on, so that it was just a t shirt as far as the children are concerned?

i don't see how it is required in nursery at all and that they are being over the top

• at dd's nursery all children have their own placemats with photos on. DD's is RED = allergy. other children with preferences/cultural requirements = ORANGE and everyone who can eat anything = GREEN

picture in the room and mgr office with photo and allergy details

why is there a need for anything else?

totally get it for toddler groups etc, a good idea, but in nursery food is controlled and i can't see why there should ever be a requirement for a t-shirt. i know you can "never be too safe" but i think it isn't required. an allergy bracelet (like the charity ones) is a better idea.

she is to young to notice and be upset and by the time she is old enough she and the other children will be so used to it that it won't be an issue. However new or stand in staff will see as will parents who might send in birthday cake. I think I would have welcomed this at nursery. We did fight at primary not to have anything marking them as "different' because by then they were aware of it.