grandparent giving an allergic child wheat

[hanreeoak]

Hi, I am so annoyed!!!!! My mum looked after my two eldest daughters as my youngest had a hospital appointment. She rarely has them and it was only for three hours.

My eldest daughter has an allergy to dairy and is also a coeliac my mother knows this and knows how poorly she can be. For some reason she bought her a cake when they went out, and told her that she would be fine.

We had very little sleep last night and she has a very poorly tummy this morning. Its not the first time she has given her unsuitable food, the last time she took her out (over a month ago) she let her eat cheese.

Why???? do people not understand, if she could eat it I would willingly give it to her, life would be so much easier no one wants their child to have an allergy. I feel like not asking her to look after them again but we have no one else and I only ever ask her for hospital appointments.

Sorry to moan its just like everyone else with allergic children I spend hours cooking food and making sure my children eat the right foods its like she does not apperiacte how hard it is, she had suitable food at home for her she just did not take it with her.

Thanks for letting me vent.

She has a list and a box full of 'safe' treats, I think I need to send food if they are going out as she never takes any with her. Going to chat to her later about the importance of making sure she eats the correct foods.

My in-laws were the same, it was a nightmare 'a little bit won't hurt him' grrr YES IT WILL.

I told them never to feed him anything. He was only allowed the food I've given him.

MIL gets a bit awkward and comes in with things like milk and says does this have wheat in it (irrelevant now as DS intolerant to dairy as well lol).

Luckily as DS has got older he questions Granny on everything - he says 'you wouldn't want to contaminate me would you' lol

Went and saw her this afternoon my daughter was really grumpy and when my mother got frustrated with her I explained that she was like this because she had had very little sleep and had tummy pains from the cake she had fed her. My mother said that dd had said that she could eat it (unlikely she's six and questions all foods!!!)

Hopefully it has sunk in a little but I think I will send all foods in future, its been a hard smelly day and night!!! (sorry!)

All to bed early tonight and start a fresh day tomorrow. Thank you for advice its great having a place to get other peoples advice and I think I will reinforce that she must question and a new list will be put on to my mums fridge.

I get so cross when I hear of this happening. What is it with people 'knowing better'? Good luck Hanreeoak - feel free to vent here anytime - we'll be here for you, x

Been there with my MIL. She gave ds2 egg when he was on an exclusive diet even though she clearly knew he wasn't allowed it.
Her view was there was nothing wrong with her kids and I was being hypersensitive as any grandchild of hers would be fine.
I found it difficult to discuss it with her as she was looking after him for me while I was at work so didn't feel right to have a go. However I got my dh to speak to her and told him how poorly ds2 had been which made her feel terrible.
Oh just remembered she also gave him a biscuit at playgroup once in front of my friends and told them don't tell his mummy!
I am being too nice - she is an evil cow

Oh my god. This is the reason I won't let MIL look after DD2 until after she's (hopefully) grown out of her allergies. Why are people so ignorant of allergies? Like it's something we mums invent?