I need help - first time mum and baby is 6 weeks 2 days. Long story short, I was induced, forceps delivery. Was exclusively breastfeeding but knew in the back of my mind I wanted to pump as well so baby was used to boob and bottle so not all pressure on me exclusively BF.
2nd night home (3rd night after DS being born) he would not feed or settle at all, screaming all night. 3am in the morning not knowing what to do I called the midwife who said give formula. So I explained I wanted to express anyway and if I could give this which they rudely said well yes, of course. Even though when I’d raised this in hospital, I was told not to. So misleading info all along.
I raised my concerns to my midwife, DS had excellent latch on both boob and bottle but wasn't emptying my boob and would only feed on one side. He was also pulling, felt like he was clamping down etc We got referred to a feeding specialist who said he will have whiplash from forceps delivery. Why we weren’t told this at hospital, I don’t know. Feel heavily let down! I was also told I have an oversupply and too fast let down. He 2as checked for tongue and lip tie, they said they couldn’t really see but “think he’s fine”.
All the changes they recommend was going well, DS has always been a bit more of a cryer however we could settle him. Until around 3 weeks ago. DS became impossible to settle and I was convinced this was due to my milk. So after messaging the HV, I decided to implement formula and combi feed using kendamil. HV suggested going lactose free for me to continue BF but due to mediation I have to take containing lactose I can’t do this. Again, combi feeding was going well but DS still hard to settle, especially in evenings. Everything was pointing towards colic, however he’s always been very refluxy but he started being sick a lot. So I swapped to kendamil comfort. This hasn’t really made a difference. He has been on infacol since around week 2 which initially helped then stopped. Using mam bottles.
DS now seems to have lost his latch on bottles, letting the milk pour out of his mouth whilst feeding. He was also getting extremely angry whilst BF and screaming, then started to feed for around an hour a time. We upped from 4oz formula every 3 hours to 5 as he seemed hungry after!
I’ve taken him to drs twice this week as I was thinking colic but he is now screaming 24 hours a day and has been for a week. The only break we get is when we eventually get him to sleep, the longest stint being the first sleep at night around 3 hours. No daytime naps unless in car and then wakes up immediately. We can’t go out without him screaming. His fists are clenched all the time and he is screaming constantly whilst crying. We are at ours wits end. He won’t take a dummy and I’ve stopped BF (personal reasons). Drs have said gaviscon and gripe water and that we are heavily overfeeding.
All along we have been using mam bottles however we have now bought in tommee tippee natural which he seems better with but still lets milk pour out. We have now bought one tommee tippee anti colic to try which seemed to be ok but he still is screaming.
Do we swap back to normal kendamil? His poos have slowed a lot. His tummy gurgles as he drinks.
Is it likely to be an intolerance, but I’m wary of trying lactose free if he doesn’t have a CMPA, will this affect him dairy wise in future?
Or is it likely to be just colic? Thing is, he can be settled bouncing on my birthing ball, but this takes a while. He can also be settled by our mums during his crying fits. He’s even crying in his sleep!
Feel ignored by drs and HV, as unfortunately they aren’t seeing the crying and don’t have to deal with it 24 hrs a day! I know there’s no magic answer, but we need relief