Going away with nut allergy

[Podmog]

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Hmm. Well we have no allergies in my family. Ds2 has a wheat intolerance - possibly coeliac disese - so I have no experience of allergies. I see that the situation is very serious for your dd, however it slightly irritates me when everyone has to give way to one person. We are vegetarian and ds2 is a hugely fussy eater, but every club, school etc.. he goes to he can't take nuts .... one of the very few things he loves. Could your dh not have moved her away from the others? I don't think you can expect them to have changed the menu because of your dd.

Ds2's very small school has a no nuts policy. WHY? No-one there has a nuts problem.

Ok - jump on me now

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I don't think you're being unreasonable Podmog. If they agreed to accommodate her, then did the opposite then they were essentially playing with her life.

If they hadn't wanted to accommodate her then they should have said so - and you could have decided whether to send her or not.

Schilke - nobody is saying your ds2 can't eat nuts - only that he refrains for the few hours he is in the company of those it could harm. Even on a school day that would leave 16+ hours for him to gorge on them. The alternative is that those w. this serious type of allergy can't ever go anywhere safely. And, yes, of course it is silly for a school to ban nuts if no-one attending has a nut allergy.

Last year I shared a large open plan office w. a woman who was anaphylactically allergic to oranges. Even someone peeling an orange at the other end of the room was enough to cause her a reaction. So I, and the other hundred odd people on the floor refrained from eating oranges at our desks. No-one complained, or felt that our 'right' to an orange outweighed her right to life/good health/a job.

I suppose the thing is did they agree for everyone to be nut free or just for your dd? If they had said no-one would have nuts then yes you should be angry. Perhaps that's not what they thought they'd agreed to.

Podmog - of course not.

An increasing number of children seem to be diagnosed with nut allergy after they start school. Therefore I don't find it unreasonable for a school to have a nut free policy even if there is currently no-one with a diagnosed nut allergy. Much better for everyone concerned if children don't have life threatening reactions at school, especially if it's a first reaction when there may be no-one who knows how to deal with it. I had a parent say to me there is no child with nut allergy at the school - parents are not always well informed.

Podmog you aren't being unreasonable if you'd made it clear how serious her allergy is. Problem is many people with nut allergy are not that susceptible. My child isn't yet, although when talking about their allergy I always try to make it clear others are less fortunate. When even the AC are effectively giving out the message that no-one dies from traces what can you expect?