what do you do at parties when child is given foods intolerant too?

[moljam]

weve just returned from party where ds2 whos cows milk intolerant and vegetarian was playing parce the parcel and got a chocolate which he swiped before i could get to it so i know were probably in for 4 days of runny bum!party food was mostly dairy and meat except carrot sticks,raisons and grapes so he had that.hes 2 so doesnt know yet that the dairy is what makes him get poorly belly,what do you do?also would it be rude to take little bit of own food similar to party food?

Not rude at all, I think most people are pretty aware of food intolerances now. I would tell them beforehand about the dairy allergy - if this had been the case at one of my kids' parties I would have put a couple of dairy-free things in one of the layers and made sure the dairy-free child got those.

i think it's better to bring your own. you can't be dealing with the 'fallout' and if it's lifelong intolerance, it's a habit he's got to get into to come to you first and check.

no-one would be offended if you did, i'm sure.

we have a problem with lots of sweets but jammy dodgers don't seem to kick it off - so we bring those if we go to parties and everyone is ok about it.

I used to take dairy free sweeties and swap them if the kids won some chocolate. Then I'd eat the offending article myself

I have been at a party where a child brought their own box of "safe" food. No-one would be out out if that's what it takes to keep him well.

If you were at my DC's party and I knew about your DS, I would have made sure all the prizes were safe for him, assuming there are some sweets he can have.

You take your own and explain why; simple as.

As people get to know/remember about your child intolerences, most will probably do their best to accommodate him in advance, as people did my DS. Nobody reasonable person is going to moan that about you bringing your own nibbles for him though if you haven't offered!

I remember a thread here (going off on a tangent a bit now) where people told me I was bang out of order for taking DS's own desserts into restaurants/cafes so that he could having something with the rest of us (nothing dairy free on menu). I was amazed! Luckily, other people came along and disagreed! But even if they hadn't I would still have taken own stuff in.. it isn't DS's fault he can't eat what they sell! (I didn't start thread and I wasn't asking what people thought.. I just mentioned it on thread). I have never had ONE place tell me off for it either, even when I haven't asked.

thankyou from the stinky poo house!i think i will start taking safe stuff with me.like someone said its not worth risk.he doesnt react as bad as some do but he was sat last night screaming holding belly and diarhoa.
i wouldnt expect people to put on special food for him-i find it hard so if they do too they might stop inviting him to parties!
WayHeyyyy-what did people say?

We had a little party for dd's 2nd birthday. When kids arrived, two little girls came with not-parents (who were to arrive later on). I promptly gave them what the other kids were eating: hula hoops. A few minutes later the older of the girls said 'this has sunflower oil' and I did not understand. A few more minutes a neighbour said that the smaller girls is allergic to sunflower. I nearly had a heart attack, I did not know it. I was then watching the little one like a hawk for any signs of anything nasty, ready to call an ambulance. As soon as her mother turned up I told her about it. Thank heavens it was more like intolerance, not full-blown allergy. That little one already has had anaphylactic shock from nuts!
I would never consider not inviting her to anything. She, like her mum and sister, is too nice to be left behind. I would just keep an eye on her. If you want to bring your own food, that is more than fine. But I would like to know so that there is at least one more person keeping an eye on what the kid eats!

good thinkin.you sound like perfect party host!!!can we come to your next party!there was another boy at party who has dairy intolerance and they made sure he had non dairy chocolate in pass the parcel although they knew about both.

I totally agree with you taking your own food, and keep something suitable in your pocked for a quick switch if he wins something unsuitable.

As they get older they'll know what they can and can't eat, and you won't be staying with them so it should get easier. But for now, take food and stay. Parents having the party have enough to do, so would welcome not having that extra responsibility.

I used to make up a box of food as similar to what the other children would be eating as possible but in "safe" versions. No-one ever minded - and quite often the children wanted my DS's versions rather than what was on the table!

Now mine are a bit older (3 - 6) I do food boxes, which make special diets far easier to deal with and the child wouldn't feel left out at all.

i wouldnt expect anyone to do anything special for him.there could be 10 children with different allergies/intolerances.

My dd takes all her own food also. But it still does frustrate me when the party bags come around. Usually I take a few safe bits which I give to the parents to put in but still people put other stuff in aswell! I just give up now. We sort through it with dd as soon as we can but this is ok for us as we stay with her. People just dont understand I suppose but it is frustrating.

luckily he was tired by end so i shoved party bag in my bag and ate chocolates and cake when he was asleep!soon wont get away with that!

it will get easier matts is 7 hes allergic to dairy and wheat{although hes showing good signs of growing out of it wether its gonna happen or not we dont know the doctors cant predict) for the longest time i travelled everywhere with jam or marmite and cream crackers sliced ham raisins and strawberries we went to wedding receptions christenings etc etc its no problem you just have to make sure everyone knows now hes 7 for the last 3-4 years hes said no thanks im lergic and he knows poorly tums and poorly poops happen and why ......

awwww

A colleague of mine has a dd with lots of food allergies, we always ask her what we should get for parties, but she brings her own, we don't think it's rude, it's actually very helpful and then I don't have to worry about her dd accidentally eating something she shouldn't.