Please Help,1yr old DD seems to be react to wheat/dairy/tomatoes

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Am running out of things to feed her,
.She has just turned 1yr and was fully bf until 6month when i started Blw,she loves her food and always wants what everyone else has got,even diners at another restaurant table,but if i give her dairy she gets the runs and is sick,she also has an awful dry red scaley rash on her face.If i give her wheat she gets constipated,terrible wind and a really bloated stomach,tomatoe has the same effect.
GP told me right off said i must not cut out whole food groups as i could cause her serious harm(this after i cut them all out for a week and her skin cleared up and she slept better)She told me i must give her dairy at least,but im not going to,so
does anyone have any ideas on what i should give her instead of dairy for the calcium(she cant eat goats milk,it turns her poo orange and gives her wind) i thought about soya but have heard that its not very good longterm.Im trying to keep breastfeeding her but my milk is drying up and im getting very stressed and weepy about the whole thing,sorry its so long.

Hi DS is 1 too and dairy allergic - he reacts very badly swollen face eyes etc. He will not drink soya formula so I am using calcium and vitamin enriched soya, oat and rice milk. He will take drink them all quite happily. I still breastfeed him at bedtime.

He does however have a very varied diet from all other food groups and eats shed loads.

The dietician is not enormously impressed with this I musy say but can't tell me why given the calcium levels are almost identical between the enriched soya/rice/oat milk and cows milk. She just kinda mmmmmm...

Not sure if that will help but wanted to reply anyhoo.

not a great lot of help - my DS2 & DD on farleys soya formula and DS1 on goats milk so obv i'm not going to be as useful as i hoped - but the one poss useful thing i could suggest is try getting a referral to see a dietician, they have assorted useful info on what constitues a 'balanced' diet and could help u with combinations of stuff.

Good luck!

How distressing for you, pity your gp is not helpful - could you ask to se a dietician?

Your gp could prescribe a formula like Pepti Junior, neocate or nutramigen or you could try lactose reduced milk or lactase drops. Lactase drops you'd probably have to buy via the internet, you can get tablets in Holand & Barrett. If its milk protein intolerance that won't help but its worth a try.

Problems with milk are often outgrown and problems with wheat/gluten can cause secondary lactose intolerance which clears up if gluten is avoided.

I'd suggest you continue breastfeeding, avoid all gluten for a few weeks and then try cheese, live yoghurt and reduced lactose milk. Cheese and live yoghurt cause less problems than milk and would still give your child calcium. Lactose reduced milk also causes less problems and has calcium. If ok with that you can try semiskimmed milk (to make sure its not fat that is the problem).

You could also try peptizyde enzymes.

Hopefully these problems are only temporary and you will feel able to reintroduce foods later. Problems with milk are often outgrown. Keep doing what you think is right.

Thanks for your replies,im trying to change drs at the mo.DD reacts badly to cheese and yogurt too,as when i cut everything out thats what we introduced first.I think i will cut it all again ,i saw that tesco does lactose free milk,is that ok for lo?
Im bf morning and eve but she sucks for ages and then grabs her water cup and drinks that instead.Its so hard to know your doing the right thing,i have 2 other dds who can eat anything,so was not expecting this

As tatt hs said if your daughter is reacting to cheese etc. then she is reacting to the cow milk protein so lactose reduced milk if not a possibility as only the lactose is changed and the milk protein will remain. She will not be short of anything if you change to e.g. Provamel rice milk, and she can eat glutenfree breads etc. (many of which are fortified with the same nutrients as gluten containing loaves). To check if it is wheat rather than gluten causing the bloating you could try giving her oats and/or rye both of which contain gluten. If she is OK with those then the problem is wheat, if she reacts to oats and rye then the problem is gluten and later she should be investigated at some stage to see if she is coeliac (lactose intolerance is often associated with being coeliac). It's dfficult when they have multiple intolerances/allergies - but you soon get into the swing of things.

Erm... at this age milk is so important for a couple of reasons: calcium and fat. At this age fat is so important because it contributes to the development of your child's brain. Calcium can be easily provided via calcium enriched commercial "milks" which would be OK for an older child. But being so young, I would insist in being prescribed a formula formulated for allergic children, which provide what your child needs at this age, like Pepti, Neocate, or Nutramigen.

Thankyou,i will try and get something prescribed then and i shall stock up on the free from ranges,Dr is a bit of an arse though,told me i shouldnt still be bf anyway as its leaching the calcium from my bones cant think where her ideas come from

Dd had nutramigen prescribed, but like many children, she refused it. Dietician said next option was to try Pepti, and option after that was to use rice milk, so it is ok at this age. In fact I continued to bf (still am), and just used rice milk when cooking. You are quite right that soya should not be used at this age.

Does she react to the dairy in your diet too? I had to give up dairy myself until a few weeks ago (when she was about 19 months), as even that would set her off.

no she was fine with me having dairy,this all started about 3 months ago and got worse recently after she had a stomach bug.

Aha - it's quite common to have a temporary intolerance after a stomach bug. Best to keep them off dairy for about 6 weeks afterwards, to avoid it becoming permanent. Your GP should have known/advised this .

starting after a stomach bug would suggest temporary lactose intolerance. If you are going to keep her off milk for more than a few weeks you do need to get some professional advice from a dietician. There are other sources of fat and calcium besides milk.

However if you can keep breastfeeding for a while that will help her to recover and in a few weeks you will hopefully be able to reintroduce at least cheese and lactose free milk. The Tesco type is Ok as she's past 1 - under that you'd really need formula. If she's still bad then you'd need to see a consultant really.

Thankyou

You can get soya formula etc prescribed until children are two yrs old, could presume from that, that medics reckon they need it that long? My 3 DC have all stayed on it til at least two, and no deficiencies in brain or diet detected only to add to what other posters are saying, not contradict them (i hope) cos conflicting advice is not what you need!

gigglewitch - recommending soya would contradict any advice that I ever give, as it shouldn't be given to under 2's at all. Search on my name and soya in the last week or so for more info (discussed it with franny).

Hi Ldies,i have been bf on demand to increase milk,her skin has cleared up already since i started the exclusion diet,but gave her tiny bit of tomato today and she has been screaming and sticking her tongue out,like its burning and drinking masses of waterso can safely assume thats a definate no no.
I have been cooking with and giving her calcium enriched rice milk as i keep hearing negative comments about soya.
I have requested an apt with dietician and allergy specialist,DR is getting back to me

Glad you are making progress and that her skin has improved already. Once you identify and eliminate the problems it all does get easier - honestly! Hope the doctor is helpful with fast appointments.

That's good news floaty. Dried figs and sesame seeds are also excellent sources of calcium, as well as fish like sardines/pilchards.

Hope you don't have to wait too long for an appointment with the dietician, although I suspect that they won't tell you much that you don't already know.

interesting info cantsleep! have hunted out a few of your threads, one back in may with links on it to news articles was fascinating. Food for thought, if you will excuse the pun.

In practice none of my DC have had just soya milk - I b-fed all 'til past a year, DD got the best deal bf til 17mo. They were then introduced to goats milk, pasteurised and diluted a bit to start with warm water, mainly to warm it up! The soya formula has been handy as it's a worry whether they get all the necessary vits/calcium etc when they stop bf. I think there's a case for weighing up the pros and cons, and admittedly i wasn't aware of all the 'cons' you mention but knew some. My DC are now 7,4 and nearly 2 so all have goats milk rather than cows which suits them very well.
I think your advice is well researched, so keep it up! I also think that keeping on trying different things in all combinations has been the key to making a balanced diet for my lot and saved them having to rely upon one particular source of calcium or whatever.
By great coincidence we are also seeing a dietitian on mon, with DS1, as i just want to make sure i'm giving him everything an energetic 7yr old needs. Isn't it all a big worry?! At least we're on top of it though

Thanks gigglewitch .

Thanks for your help,have been giving her dried figs and she loves them and im thrilled to say that we introduced oat cakes a couple of days ago and she seems fine,so looks like gluten is not a problem.We taking it slowly though