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Toddler constipation help!

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HC2018 · 10/05/2018 23:09

Sorry this might be a bit icky/tmi in places. And long but please bear with me!
My son is 3 and constantly yo yos between constipation and loose stools. He has been on movicol for about a year now and I just cannot get the right dose for him. Too much and it becomes so sticky and he can't get it out of his bottom and too little and becomes bloated, tummy ache, and has painful non existent bowel movements (if that makes sense). There is such a fine line that playing around with his dose has been a nightmare. He is potty trained. But frequently poos his pants. Not sure if this is laziness, fed up of constantly being on the toilet or inability to control. It might be a normal sized poo or often it can be tiny either dry bits of poo or slimey sticky poo. On ocassion it is giant sized and mishapen! It can easily go unnoticed (moreso at nursery) cos he doesn't pipe up about it. So the doctor has said I'm doing everything I can (high fibre, exercise, fresh air, fluids, playing with movicol dose and suppository when in pain) and agreed if I wanted to check for food intolerance I need to do it for 6 wks. She gave no guidance to achieve this. I feel completely clueless. Should I try dairy free or gluten free first? Gluten free seems very complicated. I've also read it's not healthy for toddlers. But it would only to be to identify a change. Currently his diet is packed with fibre, has alot of different grains, fairly useless with veg but not the worst, loves milk. I have tried soya milk and oat milk as diary replacement but no change (altho alongside other albeit few dairy products). Please somebody give me some idea where I could start, I am clueless with nutrition. I sometimes have to give a suppository and even that doesn't always work and its generally awful for both of us. Of note swimming is also a nightmare cos warm water sets him off almost immediately. Sorry this is long thank you if you're here reading to the end. Hopefully somebody here has had similar experience and can point me in the right direction. Cos I feel quite miffed with GP right now! I hope this makes some sense. Thank you in advance x

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user1471451866 · 10/05/2018 23:19

My daughter was similar. We had to stop giving her all dairy, although she seemed able to tolerate small amounts of yogurt. I spoke to a number of GPs and Health Visitors who said it was just one of those things and she would grow out of it. When I stopped the dairy, after reading about it, she was 'cured' within three days! She outgrew the intolerance three ears later.
I hope you find out what is causing your little boy's problems. It's horrible isn't it.

HC2018 · 11/05/2018 11:14

In case there is any concern about advising over this. My GP was happy to leave me to muddle through on my own. So any pointers based on personal experience to help me work out where to start would be appreciated. Thanks

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HC2018 · 11/05/2018 11:17

That's interesting. Was she constipated or loose? Going completely dairy free would be easier than the gluten option. Thankfully he seems happy with a variety of different milks. I can't believe how quickly your daughter felt better. We did go to soya milk but I've heard not so positive feedback on that option since then! Thanks

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user1471451866 · 11/05/2018 21:26

Constipated, but leaking almost constantly. She was two and a half and I was worried I would never be able to potty train her. Cutting out dairy was easy. For calcium I gave her bread fortified with calcium, generally the cheap white sliced (was a few years ago now).
I tried milk every three months or so and when she was five the intolerance disappeared. She couldn't have large quantities for a year or so but after that we didn't need to worry.

HC2018 · 11/05/2018 22:50

He has leakage too. It's a nightmare. I feel so bad for him. I don't even know for sure if he actually knows he has done anything. Any suggestions on product alternatives would be gratefully received. Cheese? Yoghurt? Cake? Biscuits? How did you manage this? Did you have to make alot of home made stuff or were there reasonable options in the supermarket. I was planning to stock up on what we need on sunday to try and start monday....

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user1471451866 · 12/05/2018 07:35

I hope it makes a difference for you, and if not dairy then hopefully something else will.
She is now 19, so there weren't as many products around as there are now. But it wasn't difficult. No cheese was a nuisance, but we swapped to ham omelettes, tomato based pasta sauces, etc. For biscuits, her favourite were party rings, which were dairy free anyway, and I made batches of fairy cakes for the freezer. Although I would mention it if she went to a friend's for tea I would just say to avoid obvious dairy as a little bit in a cake for example would just give her a dodgy tummy for a short while. We were fortunate that she could eat yogurt without any I'll effects.

user1471451866 · 12/05/2018 07:39

For little ones, particularly if there are siblings and small friends to visit, chocolate is difficult. I used to carry small packs of sweets to dish out so that she wouldn't miss out.

Mrschainsawuk · 12/05/2018 07:46

Ok dairy free to start with vita lite marg is dairy free great to make cakes with too, alpro Yoghurts are dairy free vegan cheese is dairy free most supermarkets sell dairy free icecream and it tastes great you will have to check all packages as you will be surprised how much food contains milk

HC2018 · 12/05/2018 09:59

Thank you for all your advice. I really hope we crack this soon before he gets a complete hang up about using the toilet!!

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HC2018 · 12/05/2018 10:00

I will take a look and see what my local supermarket has to offer out of these :)

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smorgasborgen · 27/09/2018 21:58

Hi, I hope you manage to see this..
My son, who is 3 and a half and has exactly the same problem you have described. Sometimes like putty and flaky and sometimes like cookie dough. I can b changing and wiping ten times a day.
We are vegetarian so I am praying its not dairy intolerance but I'll try anything.
How did cutting out dairy go for you?

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