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Severe reaction to vagisil - help!

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LadyVampire · 09/01/2017 11:09

I used vagisil cream to treat an itch I had. A couple of days later my vulva is covered in whilte blisters, it hurts to use the toilet and I ccan't walk it hurts so much.

OOH GP has given me some medication to help but was wondering if any home remedies might help to help the swelling and blisters as cream takes time. Feel miserable :(

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BubbleWrapQueen · 13/01/2017 23:57

found my original post have obviously name changed (about seven times!) Since!

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LadyVampire · 14/01/2017 10:32

Thank you so much for your support. I'm just worried about impact on my family. I've always been careful. I was lied to by an ex who had unprotected sex with his ex whilst we were together and because I was on the pill thought it was all ok (we were eachother's firsts) and my friend knew said girl really closely and said she had herpes so that is the only thing I can think of. Never saw him or any other ex or my DH with blisters/ symptoms though.

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BubbleWrapQueen · 14/01/2017 11:40

Lady, my DP has no outward signs or symptoms. My GP said you can carry the virus (hsv1 in our case) having had a mouth ulcer or coldsore years previously.

Do NOT blame yourself if this is indeed herpes. It is NOT your fault. There is so much guilt and emotion with this condition, but it is not something you should face alone. If it is HSV2, the gential herpes, my GP said they offer counselling to both partners. So take them up on it.

BubbleWrapQueen · 14/01/2017 11:40

How are your sores today?

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LadyVampire · 14/01/2017 12:58

I don't have any more sores, just lots of scabs healing now. No pain or discomfort so am relieved. DH says he wants us to continue to have a normal, loving, sexual relationship regardless of results (of course no sex whilst healing/ future outbreaks and use condoms). Just worried it will ruin my relationship.

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BubbleWrapQueen · 14/01/2017 13:31

I remember that worry. So clearly, especially reading back over my thread last night.

All I can say is it does get better. I couldn't envisage how at the time, and it was bloody emotional, but it is possible to have a healthy, loving, sexual relationship, and not to have to use condoms every time as well.

BubbleWrapQueen · 14/01/2017 13:31

And glad you are feeling a lot better.

yikesanotherbooboo · 14/01/2017 13:50

OP it may very well not be herpes but even if it is PPs are right that it isn't a sign of infidelity or of poor choices on either of your parts. No one stigmatises people with cold sores or wonders where they caught them. The majority of us have hsv 1 or 2 and shed a bit of virus from time to time . If we are in close contact then we might pass it on. You don't have to have open blisters to be infectious and this is why herpes is most commonly passed on in long term relationships. The only thing to worry about is pain and discomfort and even then the first attack is usually by far the worst.
Try not to worry ... herpes is your worst case scenario and in my opinion you shouldn't feel that that is too bad

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LadyVampire · 14/01/2017 13:56

Thank you so much everyone for being supportive. Just relieved in no more pain right now.

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pinkieandperkie · 16/01/2017 09:20

How are you feeling now op?

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LadyVampire · 16/01/2017 20:42

No pain, completely healed down there. Just waiting for results tomorrow. DH is being distant. I knew this was affecting him more and I'm trying to support him.

I know if it's positive we have to be careful but feel this is going to define our relationship/ life and would rather be single if this carries on and it's positive as I don't want my whole life to be me feeling guilty/ obsessing.

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BubbleWrapQueen · 16/01/2017 21:02

Lady vampire, don't do anything knee jerk. Wait and see what happens, and we will talk it through with you. But please dont do anything drastic relationship wise.

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LadyVampire · 16/01/2017 21:42

Thanks Bubble I won't do anything drastic. Will find out result tomorrow and post. Hopefully it's ok and just a reaction and if it's positive it's something I will learn to live with and speak to DH about.

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LadyVampire · 17/01/2017 10:28

Positive for type 1. At work so me and dh talk tonight.

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myoriginal3 · 17/01/2017 11:07

Sorry to hear that

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LadyVampire · 17/01/2017 20:22

Thanks myoriginal. I'm not too upset over it as it's very manageable and DH is so supportive it is helping.

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Pestilence13610 · 17/01/2017 20:30

WHO recons 2 out of 3 people have HSV1.
Relax, whatever you have DH has, he just has a body kind enough to show symptoms.

Pestilence13610 · 17/01/2017 20:31

He has a body kind enough NOT to show symptoms

BubbleWrapQueen · 17/01/2017 20:35

Ok, pm me if you want to know ANYTHING. Type 1 could well have been passed from DH to you unknowingly - do you have oral sex? Has DH ever had a mouth ulcer or cold sore?

HSV1 genitally is unusual still, but it is not a life sentence. I actually chatted to DP about this thread this weekend. And we remember three years ago so clearly. But it is honestly ok now.

BubbleWrapQueen · 17/01/2017 20:36

And you are definitely not alone. I felt like I was for an age. But my story, and yours, are so similar, there must be so many of us.

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LadyVampire · 17/01/2017 21:04

Thank you both. I read the WHO website and it seems it is a very common problem. DH has been reassuring me and says he wants our relationship to be as it always has been.

DH never had ulcers/ cold sores but says he remembers having a spot on his lip when he was a teen which could be it. We have oral sex yes.

I told DH even if he got tested for antibodies and it came up positive given how common it is we both could have HSV1 from different people (eg I got it form an ex and he got it from his aunt) so it doesn't mean he passed it on to me.

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