Well, here is the update.
I think the consultant I saw is insane. The chest xray showed irregularities consistant with continual viral infections and coughing for many years. He did not think ds has asthma, but rather inflammation that is seasonal. He has prescribed singulair which is an anti inflammatory. So far, I agree with all this and am happy to give it a go.
The insane part: he thought I was overstating ds's extreme exhaustion (based on the 10 minutes he saw im in the office). He said there is no doubt the coughing would be causing some distrubed nights that would make him tired but that there was nothing unusual about his tiredness and that all childrne up to the age of about 10 need naps during the day and this was why ds was tired!
ds by the way is 6 in July and would be in year 1 at school if he was not home schooled. Because of his home schooling, he could technically have a nap, but I am not sure what this doctor was suggesting I do if he was at school!
I totally disagree that it is normal for a child this age to be tired on 11-12 hours sleep a night and I have never heard of children this age needing daily naps.
This morning we had to go to the GP for a blood test for me. It is less than 10 minutes walk from our house. Ds was crying by the time we got their from exhaustion and I had to put him in the pushchair for the way home and make my 2.5 year old walk. I just don't understand how the doctor could htink this was normal???
At this point, I am going ahead with the singulair and I am supposed to make an appointment to see him again in a month. At that point, I may well be looking for another doctor.
The icing on the cake was when I meantioned the osteopathy that ds has (he has been treated at the OCC in London for a ocuple of year to help with all the viral infections). It has been a real lifeline to me and I don't consider it weird and wacky at all. Anyway, he basically told me I was being conned out of my money.
I cried for hours after I came home as I am so tired of doing battle with doctors and I also feel so cheated that if all he needed was singulair (which is normally prescribed to 2 year olds the consultant told me for this problem), why has no other doctor spotted what a simple xray showed.