Hello there. I think that the tests and advice you've been given is actually pretty standard. Skin prick tests are thought to be the best guide to future reactions, whereas tests on blood samples are not so accurate. The size of the weal that appears on a positive reaction to a skinprick is a reasonable guide to the severity of the reaction. When DD has been tested in our local (world-class) allergy clinic, they have usually tested for a wide list of things, guided by other evidence.
Positive skin prick + history of severe reaction (especially with asthma) = Epipen prescription. I would say that four Epipens is unusual. We have three, one at home, one at school and one that is in the bag that DD carries everywhere. They have a relatively short shelf life, typically 12-18 months (expiry marked on tube).
You need a clear emergency plan and you need support. Our plan was issued by the hospital a few years ago, and is updated every so often. If your DD is school age then you need to sit down with the school and the school nurse to work out your school plan and make sure that staff who work with your daughter know the plan and have been Epipen trained. Our plan covers what to do in case of a mild or a severe reaction, plus contact details. Originally, DD's school plan had her photo with it, and the whole thing went on the Reception noticeboard. Also make sure that you are Epipen trained. (need a hug icon here, it's all a bit overwhelming) Asthma puts you at higher risk of severer reactions, so make sure that asthma is managed very well.
Then you need really good information and a think about your home and your lifestyle. We joined the Anaphylaxis Campaign who have an excellent website, quarterly magazine, and helpline. There are some good books (PM me) if that suits you but take care that books etc really and truly cover nut allergy as opposed to intolerances.
We avoid all nuts and some seeds. DD is fine with sesame and poppy seeds but I don't give her sunflower or pumpkin seeds. They can test for sesame allergy, it's a very common allergen (and a great relief if it's not present).
Our house is nut-free, except for granola bars that my son eats in his room.
We read all the labels. Always read the label. 'May contain' is a bit of a nightmare. DD avoids 'may contain' foods (she's had severe reactions in the past). For nuts, the main difficulties are chocolate bars (no Cadbury's), granola bars (off limits), cakes and muffins, and posh bread. Also pesto, icecream...well the list goes on.
At the time of writing (but always check) DD eats Kitkats, Tunnocks chocolate wafers, Galaxy, and mint Cornettos.
And breathe.
It is a lot to get your head around and it will take a while but you can do it.