I didn't think you were being judgy, don't worry, it just made me think that not eating dairy was something that comes quite naturally to me.
We are not a meat and two veg family and because I have lived in SE asia and have such a love of the foods from that area then we do tend to eat in an Asian way a lot of the time. Things like tofu, lots of nuts, we do eat meat and fish lots of leafy veg etc- it hadn't occured to me that we may be missing out.
The whole idea that milk is essential for good bones has been promolgated in part by the glut of milk we suffered as a result of the adoption of factory farming methods following WWII.
Farmers and Milk marketers were keen to try to increase demand to use up the huge surplus were generating so huge campaigns were built to promote the idea that milk is an essential part of our diet.
Milk came to be seen as the gold standard food for children past weaning age.
There is a suggestion that milk is not the superfood we once thought- countries with the highest milk consumption also have the highest rates of osteoporosis- may not be a direct cause and efeect of course but it is interesting.
Many people are lactose intolerant to some degree, milk is quite an unnatural food past infacy and many cultures en masse simply cannot ingest it without becoming ill.
some interesting reading here- saveourbones.com/osteoporosis-milk-myth/
Perhaps not the most authoritative source but does put into the spotlight our obsession with dairy.
AnythingNotEverything I do appreciate your point though- we are dependant on dairy as a culture for calcium and other cultures do have different means- tofu for instance, and the use of vinegar laden sauces in cookiing cheap boney cuts of meat which allows calcium to become avaliable in sauces for consumption.
I'm not a faddist, please don't get me wrong- and I hope you don't see any criticism either, I just find the whole subject of dairy consumption interesting.
I am not averse to milk, and do have it on occasion if I am served it somewhere, I have even tried to get my kids to eat to when they were younger with no success.
My oldest is now 6'3" with size 12 feet but never had a glass of milk or eaten a yogurt!