Cows milk intollerant toddler feeding schedule help??

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Hi guys I was looking for some advice.
My little boy (16 months) is cows milk intollerant and soya too.
We are having a little trouble with feeding times. He is mainly just asserting his independence in refusin most foods unless it is fruit mainly.
Cause he can't have any cheese or yogurts etc. I was wondering what everyone elses routines were.
Ours is.
7am bottle around 200ml
9am breakfast which we have tried cereals and 80% of the time he doesn't take. Have tries oat milk and mixing in his neocate. Tried toast and few other things but unless it is fruit he won't take it.
11am bottle around 200ml
Lunch
Dinner
7:30 bottle around 200ml

Now what I'm confused about is when u give bottles to toddlers and if I should be giving him more or less cause he can't eat other forms of cows milk.
I had it all worked out when he was a baby but now he is refusing things I am worried that he isn't getting the right foods. Would eat his weight in fruit every meal tho lol.

Sorry if I've rambled and not making much sense.

Thanks for listening

Xx

Not sure it's a lot of help, but have you used his neocate on his cereal?
If he 'likes' it's taste, use that on & in his food to get him to eat more?
Could it be he's filling up on milk, so not fussed about eating food?

My routine:
Wake (when they wake, normally around 6!)
Breakfast ~7:30, 210ml formula (nutramigen for us) some on cereal, rest in a beaker & fruit
Snack mid morning (fruit & biscuit)
Lunch ~12, "ploughman" style, they won't eat sandwiches! Although a wrap seems to be vaguely popular at the moment. ~180ml of DF milk (Oatly, nut milks, soya or coconut, sometimes choc or vanilla flavours if I'm having a good day!)
Mid afternoon, fruit & hm baking something (slice of fruit loaf, mini muffin etc)
Tea time ~5pm, cooked meal & pudding (normally fruit pot or fruit jelly)
Bedtime 7pm, 210ml nutramigen.
Water in a beaker available 24/7

My eldest (2.5) has just come out the other side of the 'fussy hardly eat a thing' stage & is back to eating everything that's in front of him :)

Does he have neocate LCP or active now? The active is designed for over 1's & has more calcium than LCP.
Have you seen the dietician recently? Could you call them back for an appointment if you're that worried, keep a food diary for a week & let them have a look at it & reassure you that you probably are doing great with your little boy!

One thing I tried in the non-eating phase was fruity breakfast muffins or thick pancakes (mash banana or grate apple/pear into the batter -lovely!!)

Hi, my twins are 3 now but I remember what is was like(Nutramigen formula due to milk and soya allergy) By 16 months they were on a bottle(200mls) in the morning and evening with a little beaker of Oatly at lunch(hardly drunk much though)
Our dietitian told us just to stay on the bottle as they wouldn't take enough in a beaker, she also advised not to use Oatly as their main drink until 2 yrs. They stayed on an evening bottle until 22mths. By then I had managed to introduce some cheese/yoghurt.

Mine were a bit fruit obsessed also and uber picky. I found they liked ready brek mixed up with Oatly then cooled by mixing loads of frozen raspberries in it.

Mine were soooooooooooooo picky but are pretty good eaters now, hope the same happens for you.

Frozen rasp/strawbs make great "pink porridge" as my boys call it. Had forgotten about that (being summer!)

Puddings, baking & 'milky' foods can use their formula if you still want to keep the level of milk the same but transfer it to something they eat rather than drink.
Porridge, Rice pudding, custard (& fruit), milk-jelly (50/50 formula/water); white sauce in fish/chicken pies or pasta sauces; pancakes (with grated fruit/veg, serve at any meal or snack); baking - in place of any normal milk in a recipe!
Just don't eat the food yourself, it'll taste odd to you, but fine to them as they drink the formula 'neat', so if it's inside another food, it'll be ok to them!

It's interesting that the fruit thing is a common theme. We used to call my DS our little fruit bat :) I used to put it down to fact that through not having dairy he was unable to eat most of the sweet things babies on full diets used to eat and fruit was probably the sweetest thibg available to him. He grew out of his allergy and it was a while ago so can't remember the routine... but in terms of calcium rich foods which go down well instead of yogurts etc... Sainsburys do a calcium
enriched ready made jelly (raspberry or orange flavour) in
chilled section - not checked on exact amount of Calcium... or I've
made jelly at home with Tropicana orange juice with calcium which I think has similar levels to milk... jelly was always a sure hit when my LO was off his food.

Good luck - it is a headache, but hopefully will pass soon enough. I've found my DS has really wide tastes now, which I put down to trying such a range of flavours (nutramigen - bleurgh!) and not being able to have bland and boring conventional baby foods....

Wow thank you so much for all your comments. It really helps.
I've managed to find some non soya and cows milk cheese and yogurts so am excited to try them when they arrive.
I really appreciate some of ur ideas I'm going to try them all.
I haven't had a dietician appointment for a while so am going to call them tomorrow. He is on neocate active now only cause I had heard of it and asked for it. He is a very happy wee boy so I'm not worried overlay but it does start to play on your mind. I'm sure he will out grow it. But any suggestions I'll always try. So thank you so much. Really appreciate it.

Could you share the soya milk free cheese and yoghurts?
Never come across those before!

My DD is 5 but diagnosed really late.
I cook with Oatly, we have all made the switch really. and it's fine, I really don't notice the difference. Blue oatly for the calcium.

I also made custard/mousse with the chocolate oatly, if you look on oatly website they have lots of recipes. The kids loved the custard!

I got them from Goodness direct the cheese is Redwood Soya Free Cheddar Style Cheezly. And the yogurts are Co yo yogurts from the same place. There is about five to choose from. We not tried them yet so no idea how they will be but it's def worth a try.

Thanks I'll have a look on the website.

I agree about seeing the dietician, but I just wanted to reassure you that my DS went through, what seemed to be, a never ending phase of only wanting to eat fruit. He grew out of it, although he still loves fruit. I would say that if your LO's weight is ok don't worry about it. Just keep offering a variety of foods and they'll widen their tastes in their own time. I think fruit-bats are really common - I hear about them a lot. I like to think it's the result of a healthy diet being offered by their parents though it's most likely luck