DD2 is only just 3 and is slowly growing out of her eczema and egg allergy, but she has tested positive to peanuts and carries epipens. I have never left her on her own at parties or play dates, and although she goes to nursery the staff there have been thoroughly briefed about how to manage a reaction, and of course the nursery is a nut free zone. Now MIL is putting pressure on me to let her have my DDs for a few days during the school holidays. I don't feel happy about this, happy enough for DD1 to go (she's 5 and no known allergies or health problems) but DD2 is an entirely different story. Having experienced MIL's idea of food hygiene in the past and knowing that she tends to buy artisan breads and baked goods from farm shops etc that aren't properly labelled, I don't think she'd be capable of keeping DD2 100% safe. A few months ago, she bought egg free custard especially to make a trifle DD2 would be able to eat, but then she was planning to put normal sponge cake in it - never thought as far as 'cake contains eggs'! Doesn't instil much confidence in me. And even without the whole allergy malarky, I feel 3 is way too young to be sent off to stay with grandparents who live 4 hours drive away and who you don't see more than about 6 times a year? AIBU?