Hi Monkeybumsmum. So sorry to hear about your horrid year and your losses
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In the UK, following borderline tests, your GP should refer you for an endoscopy, where a biopsy of your intestine would be done. The coeliac blood test can be unreliable, although it has improved recently, and the endoscopy is really the only sure way to diagnose the condition.
The thing is, that if you take gluten out of your diet, then your next blood test will be completely unreliable, as the ingredient required for it to be meaningful (gluten) will no longer be there. When DD1 was first diagnosed, between her blood test results and her biopsy (about 6 weeks), we weren't allowed to remove anything from her diet otherwise the test results would be skewed. So if your test was negative after a gluten free month it would mean nothing.
I would go back to the GP and ask for a referral to a gastroenterologist to take it further. I have heard that undiagnosed coeliac disease can cause problems with pregnancy...do you have other symptoms as well? Bloating, diarrhoea etc (check the coeliac website for a full list of possible symptoms in adults - I'm only an expert on symptoms in children and they're quite different).
With regards to food - there are some companies in the UK who will send food abroad. Gluten free food isn't cheap, and if they're posting it, they normally have quite high minimum order requirements. The best bread is Genius Bread, next best we've found is Juvela (but you can only get this on prescription in the UK, so not sure if you'd be able to get it overseas). If you can find Doves Farm flours, they do a great range of gluten free flours - bread, self-raising, plain, rice flour. I've not had much success with baking bread, but gluten free cakes work very well . If you can find pasta, try one made with rice and maize flour rather than cornflour - much nicer.
Hope this helps - if you need any more info, feel free to CAT me.