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Exh still drinking despite everything it’s taken from him/us

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Bridgewhat24 · 21/04/2026 05:54

I’m not sure why I’m posting tbh.
I’m just so distracted by his actions still.
he’s drunk problematically, lied, suspended from old job, done for drink driving etc etc since 2021.
Finally separated in 2024 and nearly finalised divorce.
He’s been very low, anxious and depressed for a while, not coping with his job, lots of time off sick, running up debts etc.
We’ve always stayed in touch as share a dog and adult kids.
Recently he’s been suicidal and I’ve been in touch more, just checking in and reminding him of sources of support etc.
He’s had brief periods off drink but been drinking still but not to same extent as at height.
Given all he’s been feeling, extra support me and his family been giving in last month, I’m so disappointed that he was at pub on Sunday drinking 4 pints watching the footy with our ds.
just that realisation yet again that he’s not going to stop. He seems to think he’s able to drink ‘normally’ now. Despite telling me he’s going to AA again etc.
I’m annoyed that I’m even surprised tbh.
I’m just so annoyed that I’m sucked in again to being bothered and worried by his choices.
Im not at all interested in reconciliation but want him to be ok for him and our kids.
I’m seeing someone but will always be sad my marriage ended.

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Neevo · 21/04/2026 06:19

I think most people who go to AA are still drinking. It’s a horrible thing to battle and he needs to want to do it for him, not anyone else. My dad was a life long alcoholic and died last year with a glass in his hand. Sometimes it just consumes you.

Bridgewhat24 · 21/04/2026 06:28

I’m sorry about your dad. Did you manage to still have a relationship with him despite the drinking?

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turkeyteething · 21/04/2026 07:04

My uncle was a lifelong alcoholic, spent many many times in a hospital in a coma, or being dried out, always came back out and hit the drink again, he was never going to stop. Eventually the drink did kill him but not directly, he fell out of bed and banged his head on a table, never woke up.

Dolphinnoises · 21/04/2026 07:06

How old are your kids? If he’s getting plastered while taking care of them he shouldn’t be looking after them

JustChillin70 · 21/04/2026 07:07

Dolphinnoises · 21/04/2026 07:06

How old are your kids? If he’s getting plastered while taking care of them he shouldn’t be looking after them

It says they have adult children in the OP

Bridgewhat24 · 22/04/2026 00:52

Yes, dc are young adults.

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