DH has always been a big drinker. I like a drink too. A few years back we would often share a bottle of wine of an evening and that was fine. Over the last few years this has really crept up. He will buy say 10 beers, a litre of vodka and this will last 2 days max. Sometimes he'll go for a bottle of wine on top of he runs out too quickly.
We had an important event to go to yesterday but he stayed up on Friday night drinking vodka so stank in the morning and was clearly still drunk. I was embarrassed and humiliated and the day was ruined. He works shifts and unsociable hours and doesn't drink on those days so says he doesn't have a problem. But when he's off he drinks massively. We've been together a long time and I love him but I can't live with this. I have little money but do have equity in the house so any kind of separation would be very difficult. I'm thinking of telling him I'm banning alcohol at home and if he won't stick to this he'll have to move out. Is he genuinely an alcoholic if he can go without when he works? Can this be reversed or has it got too much of a grip on him?