Brother drinking really worried

[Hameth]

I need some advice. My brother (mid 50s, ex professional career ie like doctor or lawyer) is drinking so much he is really ill. He lives with his son and his girlfriend (both early 20s). Three years ago he turned up for Christmas unshaved and with visible tremors. He has been pretty much out of work for 10 years but has an income protection policy and his GP is putting down depression. We tried to support a low drinking lifestyle which lasted a few months but he is 150 miles away. 18 months ago he was hospitalised basically for starvation as he wasn't eating. He needed a zimmer frame for a year. He smokes roll ups and drinks 70 to 120 units a week. He denied he was drinking much to me on phone but we visited. He is estranged from his other children and won't reconcile unless they apologise for some past grievances no one really understands. His son used the phrase alcohol dementia and that is true. He doesn't remember my son has qualified nor his other child has graduated.
Sorry for length.
So he won't listen to any advice. At all. Has no friends no hobbies and nothing will persuade him to meet anyone.
He doesn't have to face financial consequences as he has high income protection.
His son is sort of trapped. Its rent and cost free but there are dependencies and he isn't moving on either.
I think I can do one intervention but not more so it has to work. I was thinking eg son moves out but my brother pays ( he has the money), we get cleaner in and light care worker and someone to help him eat/encourage to wash.
Is that possible? I dont know what to do. Its more for my nephew to be honest. My brother clearly just wants to drink.
I am six years sober myself. My rock bottom was being drunk in Popworld over the age of 50 and realising i had the gene and abstinence was just easier than moderation. He has been hospitalised and needing a zimmer frame, lost his career, x2 wives and his children. But still drinks.
Please any advice...

I'm sorry I don't have specific advice but Al anon might have? You're right - your brother does just want to drink so focusing on your nephew is the best approach here. What does he want to do?

The way you describe your brother sounds a lot like my dad. He basically starved / neglected / drank himself to death. I don’t know what to suggest (my dad died a few years ago) but there is no helper / carer in the world that will keep him alive if he doesn’t want to make the effort to live. We had meals delivered to my dad’s house which worked ok for a while but towards the end he stopped eating them and just threw them away. I think the lack of food got him to a tipping point of delirium along with the drinking. He didn’t drink litres of vodka a day but I guess he’d do 10-20 units a day, every day, for years and years. He had no motivation to change, he didn’t seem to fear dying at all. He just used to say, “when it’s your time, it’s your time,” which helpfully absolved him of any responsibility.

sorry for the long unhelpful rant, I’m still overcome with frustration when I think about it. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

My good friend's brother is in a care home because of his alcoholism. The family had interventions but nothing worked for him until he collapsed at home and firstly was hospitalised. He has alcohol induced dementia. He had been in an executive job for years. He has been in a care home for 9 years now and he will never get any better. He has forgotten most of his previous life, and fortunately drink, and asks the same questions over and over again. If prompted he will remember his son and daughter but never asks about them voluntarily. He is 68 now.
It is beyond tragic and so sad.
The only positive my friend takes from this is that her brother is safe, housed, warm and fed.
And can't remember that he liked alcohol and smoking.