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AIBU Drunk Husband

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muddledandpregnant · 06/12/2025 00:24

My husband is very good to me, he is supportive and kind. He’s a great provider and loves me and our children so much. When he has a drink which is not all that often he can’t seem to stop at one or two or even three.

This evening, we went to a friends house for a bite, I then went out to a play and he went home to mind the kids. When I arrived home later he was beyond drunk. Red wine all over his shirt. He had ordered a bottle of wine and drank it all. I just hate this. My family have a history of alcoholism, and it just makes my stomach turn to see him like this.

I dont know if im overreacting? it’s not very frequent and he doesn’t really want to do it and accepts he probably has an issue. I just find it so triggering honestly and I’m not sure what to do. It’s a real issue for us

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AutumnAllTheWay · 06/12/2025 00:25

He drinks a bottle of red wine now and then? If so, I think its your past (understandably) thats the problem.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 06/12/2025 00:55

If it’s infrequent, I don’t think it’s too much of a problem. How old are the kids? If they are very little and likely to need parenting during that time I would feel differently

FanofLeaves · 06/12/2025 01:01

I think he must have drunk more than that if it was spilled on his shirt? I had a bottle to myself tonight and drank it in a civilised manner whilst watching a film, perhaps he was very clumsy or he opened a second bottle?

Minjou · 06/12/2025 01:04

One bottle of red and it was down his shirt? What else did he have?

IntrinsicWorth · 06/12/2025 01:08

How does he feel about being married to a generative AI? That must take its toll and drive one to drink.

BitterTits · 06/12/2025 01:11

It's (was) Friday night. A bottle of wine isn't a big deal. The wine 'all over' his shirt suggests a low tolerance to booze, unless your exaggerating. I wouldn't be worried.

Turboislander · 09/12/2025 10:53

Was he drinking when you were with your friends and then carried on when he got home?

I'm a bit surprised by some of the responses here. Drinking to the point where you are beyond drunk and have tipped red wine all over yourself when your alone in charge of children is not ok.

Ordering in booze is possibly a bit of a red flag. If I was home and fancied a drink, we had none in and I couldn't go out to get some I'd just go without.

AmberSpy · 09/12/2025 10:55

IntrinsicWorth · 06/12/2025 01:08

How does he feel about being married to a generative AI? That must take its toll and drive one to drink.

What makes you say that?

WhatAPavalova · 22/03/2026 17:04

Did he plan on drinking?

Was he fit to look after children?

I would worry about his drinking too, I also have family history alcohol issues though.

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