Partner sober but I’m struggling

[Bea71]

Hi, so my husband has been sober now for 5 months back at work and doing really well, but I’m struggling, I feel so angry and resentful.. I don’t want to as I’m so pleased he has sorted himself out and I don’t have to live the hell iv been in for the last 3 years, he has been in detox 3 times and got arrested for drink driving, I’m so ashamed and didn’t tell a lot of ppl I just delt with it by myself, so now all is “back to normal” I’m not, I am so closed off, I don’t want to be but I can’t help it.. if I try to talk about what I’ve been through he turns it on himself and how low he was and how I should be pleased he’s over it ( as he puts it ) and I am, but it’s not the same .. has anyone been through the same? How do I heal from this?

I have so much help from this organisation which provides help for the families of alcoholics. Every situation is different but there will be people in Al-anon meeting who have been through what you are dealing with. You should both be very proud of what you have achieved but recovery doesn't happen over night for either of you.

https://al-anonuk.org.uk/

Hi
I’m in exactly the same position, I was with my partner for 1 year 9 months before I found out about his problems, I was happy and building a life with him, he had even asked me to move in and I said yes. Just before I moved in I discovered the truth, I found him drunk and that’s when he told me he had a drinking problem, he had a weeks binging, ended up in hospital and I moved in with him for a few months till he got back on his feet, then he chased me, told me I felt more like a carer than a girlfriend. 8 months later he went on another binge, he has now stopped 9 months now and says he’ll never drink again. I have been devastated by all of this , my trust has been completely shattered and I do not want to see him, I can’t bear him being near me. I don’t know what to do for the best?