My friend (39) has been married for 7 years, her DH (47) drinks a lot and it’s finally breaking her.
they have 3 kids, he’s a good dad if you don’t count the fact that he’s drinking a bottle of wine 4 nights out of 7. He regularly gets drunk at the pub or at family gatherings, even when others aren’t really drinking.
She stopped drinking altogether a few years ago, and he resents her for not being a fun drinker with him. She has struggled with some health problems and says she will never drink again, and he won’t accept it. He wants her to be a ‘fun drinker’ with him.
He seems to think he’s on the right side, being the provider (he earns well) and being fun and sociable…
She finds him argumentative when he drinks, and unpleasant to be around. He thinks he’s just a great guy.
She has tried and tried to explain to him how it’s effecting their relationship, and he did cut back for a bit, but it seems it’s just too ingrained in him that drinking is part of life, and normal, and healthy even…
She’s on the verge of ending their marriage because she’s so tired of it. It’s wearing her down and she’s miserable. They’ve tried therapy but nothing changes.
Can anyone relate? Give any advice? Thank you