Worried about kids…

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Family member is an alcoholic. Mother of two. Unsure of how bad it is completed but what I do know is she has passed out with kids there, driven drunk definitely on two occasions, chaotic house, lots of tears from her when drunk.

shit hit the fan this weekend and her husband took her to A&E after a suspected overdose on Saturday plus constant drunk over weekend and drink driving with kids. They just did bloods and gave fluids. She tried to check out but they threatened to call police if she did. She was reviewed by psych and discharged. Bloods showed alcohol misuse. She has apt on Thursday online for an alcoholic detox support so they didn’t admit her.

my question is, will the hospital be obliged to report her as there are children at home?
I thought we were at rock bottom but I don’t think so after reaction today. Kids are back with her and she wants to do it her way…next step is reporting as this can’t go on.

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Are the kids with her or with her and her husband? I think this makes a difference.

Ultimately, the children have two parents who by the sound of it, both have parental responsibility. Their dad needs to keep them safe and the home a stable place to live. Now is the time for him to step up, he needs to be doing the school runs, doing all the cooking, getting them to bed, doing homework, doing all the driving so she is never in a place of drink driving with her kids. It may mean he needs to reduce his working hours or take parental leave. It may mean he and the children need to live somewhere else temporarily or she needs to be asked to leave. Can someone give her a place to stay?

I think it’s less about reporting anything to social services (unless dad’s also a hot mess) and more about what can be done to keep life safe and normal for the children.

I’m sorry I never got back on. So initially we thought husband was a good support but it’s aspired that he is drinking as much as her. He is not willing to give up to support her either. He’s also just started new job so can’t be around. We’ve offered her an empty house close to family to stay in but she won’t. She has reached out for addiction support but it’s slow and only once a week meetings.

i don’t know what to do…we thought we had husbands support but this has all aspired this week

Hopefully A&E have reported to social services as this is a safeguarding issue. You can also report to social services or the NSPCC.
It sounds as if neither parent is priortising the children's welfare.
You can get support from Al-Anon