Please give me advice, partner drinking

[BabyUxX]

Hi all, I need some advice please and some honesty because I'm at a loss at what to think or do any more, cut a long story short my partner has always liked alcohol and drugs, he had calmed down over the years with the drug taking but still drank occasionally, but it's got to the point now he is drinking around 7-8 cans a day possibly more on the weekends.. he is also taking anti depressants for depression he's been on them a few months (I don't know if they are really working with the drink). He works Monday to Friday and works hard, I work part time because of the children. Basically he says he works hard so he can drink as a reward, all of his friends at work also drink and send eachother pictures of their drinking on the evenings, his friend offered him a beer machine and he took it for £80 and then has gone through quite a few beer kegs at 40 pound each. One keg only lasts 2 days at a push that's how much beer he drinks, anyway cut this story short but In the past two weeks I've really tried to tell him it's making me sad seeing him drink everyday and I've asked if theirs any issues as to why he is drinking he says no, he drinks cos he deserves it with working, he then turns angry with me and shouts at me for mentioning 'his beer' he says his beer is like my make up. He says I buy make up and hair accessories so why can't he buy beer, when I mention his health he still brings it back onto my make up. It makes me so sad. I have cried so many times in two weeks because he keeps saying I need to get rid of my make up and hair things and then he will stop drinking, then when I cry he says " oh look your crying again making me feel like the bad one " he proceeds to then say I don't work enough so I shouldn't be buying anything at all apart from paying the rent and giving him the rest of my money. He keeps bringing up when I asked him if I could lend 3 pound for some eyeliner, he says I shouldn't ask him for anything to do with buying something for myself when I'm coming at him about the beer he buys. 😭 This has upset me to the point I'm at a complete loss if what he is saying is right does my make up compare to his drinking? Have I got all this wrong and it's my fault? 😭😭 I am so tired of crying...

He absolutely has a problem and if it isn’t nipped in the bud now, it will only get worse. Essentially you will have to give him an ultimatum and ofcourse he will blame you (this is what they do). His personality will change and over time you’ll wonder if you even know him anymore. Make up doesn’t kill u, drinking every night can, it’s not even a comparison.
This is how it started with my dad. It went from drinking at the wkend to drinking on a Thursday, Friday, Saturday to then most nights and eventually every night. He eventually began to buy cheaper alcohol like cider but still denied anything was wrong. Myself and siblings were young adults and had already moved out so didn’t see it the way my mum did. He would say she’s exaggerating etc. He would say I like a drink, I can stop any time I want. He refused to stop though. We wld say prove it then stop. He would then do it in secret and lie about it. He would go through spells of admitting he had a problem to then saying he just said that to keep us happy. He lost his job through it and ended up having an accident when trying to do a job while being under the influence. He had life changing injuries and that was the only way he gave it up as he was in hospital and cldnt get any alcohol. That got him sober and he was for years but more recently he has gone through a few slip ups.
You can’t let your children be around this. He’s already playing the mind games and I know my mum went through hell. They blame everything on you and will say ur nagging etc. I really feel for u but don’t put up with it.